thank you all, We listened to difficult child's therapist and got him out once it didn't work out now she says that not all Residential Treatment Center (RTC) are like the one she referred us to. Well I'm sure she is right but that isn't why I do not want to try that route again. difficult child needs to show that he is ready willing and able to work on himself. He hasn't done that and I think the best way he can show us that is to work the program provided at the jail.
husband went to see him today and said that difficult child knows that he has to do it or stay in for another 14 months or more depending on his future behavior. I am not sure if he is using the suicide stuff as a means of control or if he really feels that way. Other than his stupid behavior he has never tried to harm himself in the past. on the other hand he isn't a very strong person. He has few coping skills when he is uncomfortable. You are right that he is where he is because of his own actions. I have done much in an effort to prevent this, all to no avail. I do not know how I would be if he did harm himself. Would I be able to avoid taking on a huge burden of guilt? I do not know. I hope I never know. -RM
