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"How can I screw my life up today?"
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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 659950" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>Ugly stuff, Lil. So much I want to say right now, but mainly that I think so many of us have been at that grieving stage, where we see that none of it has done or will do any good and we are finally just letting go. A very hard stage to reach emotionally, but very cathartic once we just give over to it.</p><p></p><p>The hard part now is not snatching it up again, Lil. We have all pulled off amazing feats in the motherhood department. We've had to in order to survive. But there comes a time when we should no longer use our superpowers.</p><p></p><p>No more strategizing, no more calculating, no more having your hand in it in any way. Every time you do (and believe me, I'm not criticizing -- I've done it too!)...every time you do, you send a message to yourself AND TO HIM that says, "I don't have faith in you. I don't think you can handle this. I am going to be standing in the background *just in case* because I am guessing you are going to need my help." </p><p></p><p>No more, Lil. Kiss him and send him on his way. He will be okay. He might get a little banged up on the way, but he will be okay. Show him you believe that in your heart. It is the very best gift you can give him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 659950, member: 17720"] Ugly stuff, Lil. So much I want to say right now, but mainly that I think so many of us have been at that grieving stage, where we see that none of it has done or will do any good and we are finally just letting go. A very hard stage to reach emotionally, but very cathartic once we just give over to it. The hard part now is not snatching it up again, Lil. We have all pulled off amazing feats in the motherhood department. We've had to in order to survive. But there comes a time when we should no longer use our superpowers. No more strategizing, no more calculating, no more having your hand in it in any way. Every time you do (and believe me, I'm not criticizing -- I've done it too!)...every time you do, you send a message to yourself AND TO HIM that says, "I don't have faith in you. I don't think you can handle this. I am going to be standing in the background *just in case* because I am guessing you are going to need my help." No more, Lil. Kiss him and send him on his way. He will be okay. He might get a little banged up on the way, but he will be okay. Show him you believe that in your heart. It is the very best gift you can give him. [/QUOTE]
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