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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 660105" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>I went to alanon this morning and it was a particularly great meeting. We read a passage out of one of the alanon books and then people commented and shared. The conversation migrated to people and their understanding of their Higher Power. Lots of different points of view and there was something interesting and thoughtful and helpful from most of the shares. As I listened, I thought about all the times I wondered why things happen and all the times I have asked for an outcome that I wanted. And all of the times that it seemed like the outcome was very different than what I imagined, often something I couldn't see until long long after, after a lot of time passed. </p><p></p><p>As I flipped through my little alanon book I brought with me, I saw something I had written there that I heard in an alanon meeting on August 30, 2014.</p><p></p><p>It was this: It is already taken care of.</p><p></p><p>I remember hearing those words in a meeting and being struck by them. After I left I thought about those words for days, weeks. </p><p></p><p>All my life I thought I had to handle every thing, be the strong one, fix it, manage it. If people would only do it this way...why can't they see what I see when they look at their own lives and just do this, or that? </p><p></p><p>It is already taken care of.</p><p></p><p>I have learned the hard, bitter way over these years that if I can just stop, then room for a higher power to work is created. If I can just stop.</p><p></p><p>It is already taken care of.</p><p></p><p>Lil and Jabber, today you have the gift of physical distance right now. He is striking out today. Not to where you wanted or hoped, but where he decided to go. Not as you wanted it to be, of course, but how he decided. Messy, chaotic, different. Uncertain. Risky even, perhaps. But also, perhaps not.</p><p></p><p>One thing different has happened, right now. And sometimes, it only takes one thing.</p><p></p><p>Most of our kids, they have to get free of us. They have to do it their way, rebel, run away, mess things up something awful...before they can see what is next for them.</p><p></p><p>I know you are scared right now and sad and it is not what you wanted or hoped. I so get that. I have been right there, just as recently as last week, both with easy child and difficult child, recently. </p><p></p><p>It never is as we wish it was. But something good may be just ahead. We never know. </p><p></p><p>I do believe this: it is already taken care of. And you don't have to do anything at all.</p><p></p><p>I hope and pray that you two can reclaim your own lives, even if just for today, or tomorrow, or this week. I have no doubt you'll be hearing from him and I am just hoping that somehow, something good can happen for him. Just one thing even, that can lead to more good things.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there. We are here with you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 660105, member: 17542"] I went to alanon this morning and it was a particularly great meeting. We read a passage out of one of the alanon books and then people commented and shared. The conversation migrated to people and their understanding of their Higher Power. Lots of different points of view and there was something interesting and thoughtful and helpful from most of the shares. As I listened, I thought about all the times I wondered why things happen and all the times I have asked for an outcome that I wanted. And all of the times that it seemed like the outcome was very different than what I imagined, often something I couldn't see until long long after, after a lot of time passed. As I flipped through my little alanon book I brought with me, I saw something I had written there that I heard in an alanon meeting on August 30, 2014. It was this: It is already taken care of. I remember hearing those words in a meeting and being struck by them. After I left I thought about those words for days, weeks. All my life I thought I had to handle every thing, be the strong one, fix it, manage it. If people would only do it this way...why can't they see what I see when they look at their own lives and just do this, or that? It is already taken care of. I have learned the hard, bitter way over these years that if I can just stop, then room for a higher power to work is created. If I can just stop. It is already taken care of. Lil and Jabber, today you have the gift of physical distance right now. He is striking out today. Not to where you wanted or hoped, but where he decided to go. Not as you wanted it to be, of course, but how he decided. Messy, chaotic, different. Uncertain. Risky even, perhaps. But also, perhaps not. One thing different has happened, right now. And sometimes, it only takes one thing. Most of our kids, they have to get free of us. They have to do it their way, rebel, run away, mess things up something awful...before they can see what is next for them. I know you are scared right now and sad and it is not what you wanted or hoped. I so get that. I have been right there, just as recently as last week, both with easy child and difficult child, recently. It never is as we wish it was. But something good may be just ahead. We never know. I do believe this: it is already taken care of. And you don't have to do anything at all. I hope and pray that you two can reclaim your own lives, even if just for today, or tomorrow, or this week. I have no doubt you'll be hearing from him and I am just hoping that somehow, something good can happen for him. Just one thing even, that can lead to more good things. Hang in there. We are here with you. [/QUOTE]
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