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How can l stop feeling sorry for my 21 year old??
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 764845" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Hi Galese. Welcome.</p><p></p><p>Your son is an adult now. He makes his own future based on his own choices, good or bad. The only way he can change is based upon his own learning, based on his own experience.</p><p></p><p>You are not alone. Almost all of us here have tried to influence our children to do better. We can try to get them into drug treatment, bail them out, provide housing, or all of the above. But eventually, they are called upon to decide for themselves, as is your son.</p><p></p><p>The thing is, if giving up our health, our marriages, our money and our sanity helped, it might be a viable decision. But it does not. Who among us hasn't thought or said, I'd give up anything, even my life, if it could turn my child's life around?</p><p></p><p>But we end up without partners, without our health, having paid our thousands of dollars. We raise their children. And at the end of the day, what we do does not change things.</p><p></p><p>It is only what our children decide to do, and follow through.</p><p> </p><p>No one here doesn't understand your pain and your heartache. Nobody here doesn't relate to your choices. We have done the same. It does not save our children. Only they can save themselves.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 764845, member: 18958"] Hi Galese. Welcome. Your son is an adult now. He makes his own future based on his own choices, good or bad. The only way he can change is based upon his own learning, based on his own experience. You are not alone. Almost all of us here have tried to influence our children to do better. We can try to get them into drug treatment, bail them out, provide housing, or all of the above. But eventually, they are called upon to decide for themselves, as is your son. The thing is, if giving up our health, our marriages, our money and our sanity helped, it might be a viable decision. But it does not. Who among us hasn't thought or said, I'd give up anything, even my life, if it could turn my child's life around? But we end up without partners, without our health, having paid our thousands of dollars. We raise their children. And at the end of the day, what we do does not change things. It is only what our children decide to do, and follow through. No one here doesn't understand your pain and your heartache. Nobody here doesn't relate to your choices. We have done the same. It does not save our children. Only they can save themselves. [/QUOTE]
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