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How can l stop feeling sorry for my 21 year old??
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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 764847" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>Hello. Agreeing with the others. </p><p></p><p> If your son was younger than 21 MAYBE I would feel slightly different , as many are still very childlike at 18. But at 21 something should start clicking with your son. And enabling only makes things more complicated and drag on. Either he is going to face reality amd his role in it or not. It’s really up to him. And enabling only slows things down.</p><p></p><p>Additionally, you have every right and even obligation to make the most out of your own personal life. You already paid a dear price with this young man. in my humble opinion, enough. And in a certain way, you set an example for your son when you set boundaries AND push forward within your own life enjoying relationships that are every right of yours to enjoy and to be productive and happy.</p><p></p><p>The ball needs to be in his court. He needs to make a personal decision for change. You can not do it for him. </p><p></p><p>There are support groups out there for folks suffering with adult kids not functioning well and pulling us down. Families Anonymous is a good one. But there are others.</p><p></p><p>Wishing you strength and much happiness!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 764847, member: 4152"] Hello. Agreeing with the others. If your son was younger than 21 MAYBE I would feel slightly different , as many are still very childlike at 18. But at 21 something should start clicking with your son. And enabling only makes things more complicated and drag on. Either he is going to face reality amd his role in it or not. It’s really up to him. And enabling only slows things down. Additionally, you have every right and even obligation to make the most out of your own personal life. You already paid a dear price with this young man. in my humble opinion, enough. And in a certain way, you set an example for your son when you set boundaries AND push forward within your own life enjoying relationships that are every right of yours to enjoy and to be productive and happy. The ball needs to be in his court. He needs to make a personal decision for change. You can not do it for him. There are support groups out there for folks suffering with adult kids not functioning well and pulling us down. Families Anonymous is a good one. But there are others. Wishing you strength and much happiness!!!! [/QUOTE]
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