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How can we keep difficult child away from druggie girlfriend?
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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 496009" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Although it was not a girlfriend I literally did everything I could possibly do to keep difficult child#1 away from his EF (evil friend). I won't enumerate all that I did but believe me other than being glued to difficult child#1 I could not have taken any more preventive steps. I failed. </p><p></p><p>The only thing I can even think of (and frankly I doubt it would work, sad to say) is for you to explore housing options in your area for his girlfriend that are more stable and secure than her current lifestyle. Then give a shot at this approach. "Son, you have to make your recovery the top priority in your life. We know that your friendship with X has been important to you and that you are concerned about her life.We hope that she will have a better future and believe that like you she needs to focus on her personal growth and maturity. There are choices for her that exist in our community. Here is a list that I have put together than shows some of her choices. All adults have to make choices whether they are 18 or 80. Taking individual responsibility is what determines the future. You will be making important choices when you are discharged from your program. We know that you can find success if you focus on you. As your parents we will be at your side so long as you give your best to healthy living. You will be choosing the path for your future. We will not share destructive choices. Using your energy to help others is not going to help you. We love you and hope to share a healthy future."</p><p></p><p>Like I said, I doubt it will help. on the other hand IF he knows that she has choices it "may" diminish his feelings of responsibility to her. Obviously you all have choices to make also. Decide in advance as a united front what you will and will not accept and then stick to it. Whatever the choices are don't back down. I am sending supportive and caring thoughts your way. Hugs. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 496009, member: 35"] Although it was not a girlfriend I literally did everything I could possibly do to keep difficult child#1 away from his EF (evil friend). I won't enumerate all that I did but believe me other than being glued to difficult child#1 I could not have taken any more preventive steps. I failed. The only thing I can even think of (and frankly I doubt it would work, sad to say) is for you to explore housing options in your area for his girlfriend that are more stable and secure than her current lifestyle. Then give a shot at this approach. "Son, you have to make your recovery the top priority in your life. We know that your friendship with X has been important to you and that you are concerned about her life.We hope that she will have a better future and believe that like you she needs to focus on her personal growth and maturity. There are choices for her that exist in our community. Here is a list that I have put together than shows some of her choices. All adults have to make choices whether they are 18 or 80. Taking individual responsibility is what determines the future. You will be making important choices when you are discharged from your program. We know that you can find success if you focus on you. As your parents we will be at your side so long as you give your best to healthy living. You will be choosing the path for your future. We will not share destructive choices. Using your energy to help others is not going to help you. We love you and hope to share a healthy future." Like I said, I doubt it will help. on the other hand IF he knows that she has choices it "may" diminish his feelings of responsibility to her. Obviously you all have choices to make also. Decide in advance as a united front what you will and will not accept and then stick to it. Whatever the choices are don't back down. I am sending supportive and caring thoughts your way. Hugs. DDD [/QUOTE]
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