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How can we keep difficult child away from druggie girlfriend?
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<blockquote data-quote="pinevalley" data-source="post: 496059" data-attributes="member: 3710"><p>Thanks for all your suggestions about my son and this problem girlfriend. difficult child has only one more semester to go to graduate from high school, so sending him to live somewhere else right now is not an option for us. My husband has insisted that if we find that difficult child is still involved with this girl when he gets out of rehab that he will not be able to live in our house. I think that this ultimatum is too drastic to enforce right now, because we want difficult child to stay at home so he can graduate from high school. He will be part of an intensive outpatient program when he comes home, and he also has a therapist that we all have been seeing for the past year. The therapist knows all about the homeless girlfriend, and he will work with difficult child to try to keep him away from this girl. Right now difficult child is telling us that he has no intention of seeing this girl out of school, because he knows that he has to focus on his recovery. He is saying all the right things, but I'm really afraid that he will change his mind when he is out of rehab and this girl needs his help. difficult child just told me recently that this girl has found a place to live, so she will not be staying at the homeless shelters anymore. She is now living with a 30 year old guy, who was once homeless and wants to "help" this girl. That sounds like trouble to me, but it is her decision. My son is relieved that this girl is not living on the streets anymore, so hopefully she may not be so needy for his help all the time. I am thinking of meeting with this girl in person and making it very clear to her that my son will not be responsible for rescuing her anymore, and that she is on her own and can not ask him for help at all. I doubt if this will really get thru to her, but she keeps telling me how much she loves my son and how she wants him to stay clean. She told me that she has to stay clean too because she wants to join the Army and she can't be using any drugs when she joins the Army. I wish that she was joining the Army right now, instead of waiting until she graduates in June! It will be a long few months for us until difficult child really graduates from school and this girl actually joins the Army and moves.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="pinevalley, post: 496059, member: 3710"] Thanks for all your suggestions about my son and this problem girlfriend. difficult child has only one more semester to go to graduate from high school, so sending him to live somewhere else right now is not an option for us. My husband has insisted that if we find that difficult child is still involved with this girl when he gets out of rehab that he will not be able to live in our house. I think that this ultimatum is too drastic to enforce right now, because we want difficult child to stay at home so he can graduate from high school. He will be part of an intensive outpatient program when he comes home, and he also has a therapist that we all have been seeing for the past year. The therapist knows all about the homeless girlfriend, and he will work with difficult child to try to keep him away from this girl. Right now difficult child is telling us that he has no intention of seeing this girl out of school, because he knows that he has to focus on his recovery. He is saying all the right things, but I'm really afraid that he will change his mind when he is out of rehab and this girl needs his help. difficult child just told me recently that this girl has found a place to live, so she will not be staying at the homeless shelters anymore. She is now living with a 30 year old guy, who was once homeless and wants to "help" this girl. That sounds like trouble to me, but it is her decision. My son is relieved that this girl is not living on the streets anymore, so hopefully she may not be so needy for his help all the time. I am thinking of meeting with this girl in person and making it very clear to her that my son will not be responsible for rescuing her anymore, and that she is on her own and can not ask him for help at all. I doubt if this will really get thru to her, but she keeps telling me how much she loves my son and how she wants him to stay clean. She told me that she has to stay clean too because she wants to join the Army and she can't be using any drugs when she joins the Army. I wish that she was joining the Army right now, instead of waiting until she graduates in June! It will be a long few months for us until difficult child really graduates from school and this girl actually joins the Army and moves. [/QUOTE]
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