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How can you tell a social drinker from a problem drinker?
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<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 532667" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>An interesting discussion. I think the bottom line in many cases is: is drinking causing negative effects in your life. </p><p></p><p>My mother was an alcoholic. Both my ex husbands were alcoholics. I've dated recovering alcoholics (somehow, I thought that was better because they recognized their problem, but it wasn't... it was awful, in fact). I'm addicted to alcoholics. Each of those relationships was ruined by alcohol, in one way or another. I've finally killed that pattern, and am super aware of problem drinkers now. I recognize them pretty quickly, don't make excuses for them any longer, and avoid them like the plague. </p><p></p><p>Yet, I like to drink. I even run a beer social group, because I love craft beer (I'm fascinated by the industry). I attend beer tastings and beer festivals often. I am very much a social drinker, though. I have a ton of beer in my fridge, and in my pantry (aging it, I've become a "beer hoarder" since discovering unique beers that age well). But, I rarely drink at home alone. I just don't enjoy it. When I do open one at home alone, half the time I don't finish it, and don't want a 2nd. I'm pretty self aware when I'm drinking socially, and since I'm usually driving myself, I limit my intake to 1 or 2. It's nice to occasionally get a ride/daughter and not have to worry about that but even then, I usually stop when I feel like I've had enough (tipsy but not out of control). It's interesting to see the reaction of some people around me when I say no to one more drink, when I'm not driving. Some (the heavy drinkers bordering on problem drinkers) don't get it.. they think a daughter is license to get blitzed. But when I'm done, I'm done. I'm too old for the "drink to get drunk" mentality, and certainly too old to deal with hangovers and being sick.</p><p></p><p>So, some might assume I have a "problem" because they know I constantly going to beer tastings, beer dinners, breweries, etc. But I drink a lot less than they realize, despite that. My therapist says I'm the most self-aware person she knows. I analyze myself to death (and believe me I've analyzed this, given my history of alcoholics). She's pretty confident that I'm ok, and I am, too. I'm just a social drinker, and a beer snob.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 532667, member: 1157"] An interesting discussion. I think the bottom line in many cases is: is drinking causing negative effects in your life. My mother was an alcoholic. Both my ex husbands were alcoholics. I've dated recovering alcoholics (somehow, I thought that was better because they recognized their problem, but it wasn't... it was awful, in fact). I'm addicted to alcoholics. Each of those relationships was ruined by alcohol, in one way or another. I've finally killed that pattern, and am super aware of problem drinkers now. I recognize them pretty quickly, don't make excuses for them any longer, and avoid them like the plague. Yet, I like to drink. I even run a beer social group, because I love craft beer (I'm fascinated by the industry). I attend beer tastings and beer festivals often. I am very much a social drinker, though. I have a ton of beer in my fridge, and in my pantry (aging it, I've become a "beer hoarder" since discovering unique beers that age well). But, I rarely drink at home alone. I just don't enjoy it. When I do open one at home alone, half the time I don't finish it, and don't want a 2nd. I'm pretty self aware when I'm drinking socially, and since I'm usually driving myself, I limit my intake to 1 or 2. It's nice to occasionally get a ride/daughter and not have to worry about that but even then, I usually stop when I feel like I've had enough (tipsy but not out of control). It's interesting to see the reaction of some people around me when I say no to one more drink, when I'm not driving. Some (the heavy drinkers bordering on problem drinkers) don't get it.. they think a daughter is license to get blitzed. But when I'm done, I'm done. I'm too old for the "drink to get drunk" mentality, and certainly too old to deal with hangovers and being sick. So, some might assume I have a "problem" because they know I constantly going to beer tastings, beer dinners, breweries, etc. But I drink a lot less than they realize, despite that. My therapist says I'm the most self-aware person she knows. I analyze myself to death (and believe me I've analyzed this, given my history of alcoholics). She's pretty confident that I'm ok, and I am, too. I'm just a social drinker, and a beer snob. [/QUOTE]
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