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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 101551" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>I'm going to try and address a few issues as your son is still in the evaluation process. Hopefully you will "file this post away" so that you can plan what you need to ask for in his IEP from those of us who have responded.</p><p></p><p>The first thing I would do would be to send a letter to the school requesting an interium 504 plan meeting since your difficult child qualifies due to his diagnosis of adhd. If they have not even started the testing yet, it could easily be 90 days or more before an IEP is implemented. The 504 meeting will have to be held within 10 days and you can write it right then and there and it is immediately in effect. I would have them write exactly what Wiped Out has in her son's IEP "no homework expectations" (the reasoning at this point is that there is noway he can do both his missed classwork and his homework - the classwork is more important since it teaches what the homework is). In the meantime, keep doing your best to assist him with at least the missed classwork so he doesn't fall too far behind.</p><p></p><p></p><p>40 meetings of nightly reading it excessive for the typical 3rd grader! Add a difficult child kid into the mix and this is a nightmare!</p><p></p><p>Have you asked for testing before? You say that the evaluations should have been done forever ago. I am wondering if you had asked the school before and they did not respond or denied your request?</p><p></p><p>You say that he does him homework for you. That's wonderful! You also mention that he will not do it in another room. That's fine - I don't think a third grader should be forced to go do his homework alone. Many children need to be near the family to help them stay on task or some kids just need more assistance. Whatever works works!</p><p></p><p>You cannot expect his teacher to retrieve his homework - what if she had to do that for all 24 kids? Now, this is another issue you may address in the 504. Purchase a folder with pockets for his classwork/schoolwork. Ask, in the 504, that the teacher place his work in the folder. Also request that in the am, the teacher request the folder back. You can ask for those things in a 504. I would, however, give the teacher a little break here because she must be frustrated as well. It's great that his new desk position is working. That's why so many IEPs have "preferential seating" in them.</p><p></p><p>Take a deep breath. Breaking down at the meeting with the school is not a good way to show that you are a strong and knowledgable parent. I know it is an emotional issue when you see your little boy having this much trouble. I have been there too. But presenting yourself as their equal in the meeting is extremely important.</p><p></p><p>I would suggest you spend a little time over on the Special Education archives here on the site. There is a wealth of information there. I've been here for years and, even yesterday before my son's re-evaluation meeting at school, I browsed the archives!</p><p></p><p>There will be some progress made here but it definately takes time. School is one piece, homelife another, therapy, medications, his desire to get better, etc., are all pieces of the puzzle. Several need to be there before things begin to "look right".</p><p></p><p>Hang in there! You work hard and are doing your best for your son. </p><p></p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 101551, member: 805"] I'm going to try and address a few issues as your son is still in the evaluation process. Hopefully you will "file this post away" so that you can plan what you need to ask for in his IEP from those of us who have responded. The first thing I would do would be to send a letter to the school requesting an interium 504 plan meeting since your difficult child qualifies due to his diagnosis of adhd. If they have not even started the testing yet, it could easily be 90 days or more before an IEP is implemented. The 504 meeting will have to be held within 10 days and you can write it right then and there and it is immediately in effect. I would have them write exactly what Wiped Out has in her son's IEP "no homework expectations" (the reasoning at this point is that there is noway he can do both his missed classwork and his homework - the classwork is more important since it teaches what the homework is). In the meantime, keep doing your best to assist him with at least the missed classwork so he doesn't fall too far behind. 40 meetings of nightly reading it excessive for the typical 3rd grader! Add a difficult child kid into the mix and this is a nightmare! Have you asked for testing before? You say that the evaluations should have been done forever ago. I am wondering if you had asked the school before and they did not respond or denied your request? You say that he does him homework for you. That's wonderful! You also mention that he will not do it in another room. That's fine - I don't think a third grader should be forced to go do his homework alone. Many children need to be near the family to help them stay on task or some kids just need more assistance. Whatever works works! You cannot expect his teacher to retrieve his homework - what if she had to do that for all 24 kids? Now, this is another issue you may address in the 504. Purchase a folder with pockets for his classwork/schoolwork. Ask, in the 504, that the teacher place his work in the folder. Also request that in the am, the teacher request the folder back. You can ask for those things in a 504. I would, however, give the teacher a little break here because she must be frustrated as well. It's great that his new desk position is working. That's why so many IEPs have "preferential seating" in them. Take a deep breath. Breaking down at the meeting with the school is not a good way to show that you are a strong and knowledgable parent. I know it is an emotional issue when you see your little boy having this much trouble. I have been there too. But presenting yourself as their equal in the meeting is extremely important. I would suggest you spend a little time over on the Special Education archives here on the site. There is a wealth of information there. I've been here for years and, even yesterday before my son's re-evaluation meeting at school, I browsed the archives! There will be some progress made here but it definately takes time. School is one piece, homelife another, therapy, medications, his desire to get better, etc., are all pieces of the puzzle. Several need to be there before things begin to "look right". Hang in there! You work hard and are doing your best for your son. Sharon [/QUOTE]
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