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How do I deal with the hurt
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<blockquote data-quote="Sabine" data-source="post: 620303" data-attributes="member: 17639"><p>I have something for you to think about. Spend some time reflecting upon what it was like when you were 18-25. What were you doing? Where were you living? What sort of relationship did you have with your parents (or guardians)? If you weren't living with your parents (guardians), how often did you contact and/or think about them? How often did they contact and/or think about you? What is an "ideal" amount?</p><p></p><p>As parents, we're in a lucky situation where we KNOW what it is like to be in the kids' shoes (not the specifics like drug use, maybe, but at least we were once young and can somewhat relate). The kids, though, have no way of knowing what it's like to be a parent.</p><p></p><p>I'd like for you to start splitting your day in half. Half of it should be devoted to thinking about/spending time with your 15 year old, your home, and any other family members. The other half the time is spent on taking care of YOU. As you may have noticed, there will be no time left to spend worrying about the two adult children. This is how it SHOULD be. If you're a praying woman, pray for them each night, but the rest of the day is spent taking care of those in your home that need you in the here and now (most of all yourself).</p><p></p><p>It's a tough situation, but it CAN be better.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sabine, post: 620303, member: 17639"] I have something for you to think about. Spend some time reflecting upon what it was like when you were 18-25. What were you doing? Where were you living? What sort of relationship did you have with your parents (or guardians)? If you weren't living with your parents (guardians), how often did you contact and/or think about them? How often did they contact and/or think about you? What is an "ideal" amount? As parents, we're in a lucky situation where we KNOW what it is like to be in the kids' shoes (not the specifics like drug use, maybe, but at least we were once young and can somewhat relate). The kids, though, have no way of knowing what it's like to be a parent. I'd like for you to start splitting your day in half. Half of it should be devoted to thinking about/spending time with your 15 year old, your home, and any other family members. The other half the time is spent on taking care of YOU. As you may have noticed, there will be no time left to spend worrying about the two adult children. This is how it SHOULD be. If you're a praying woman, pray for them each night, but the rest of the day is spent taking care of those in your home that need you in the here and now (most of all yourself). It's a tough situation, but it CAN be better. [/QUOTE]
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