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<blockquote data-quote="WiseChoices" data-source="post: 750558" data-attributes="member: 24254"><p>Yes, I had tons of guilt and shame coming into Al-Anon. Working the steps has helped me a lot in releasing this burden I put on myself. I did the best I could do with the tools I had at the time. And once my own guilt was gone , it was easier to set a boundary and say "I no longer accept blame from you", "I don't allow anyone to attack me today" and if they continue, I calmly walk away. I know they are hurting , but attacking and blaming is not going to get any of us well, you know? I try to encourage and love and accept as much as I am capable of right now, and when I learned to be gentler to myself , this also translated into my relationships.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WiseChoices, post: 750558, member: 24254"] Yes, I had tons of guilt and shame coming into Al-Anon. Working the steps has helped me a lot in releasing this burden I put on myself. I did the best I could do with the tools I had at the time. And once my own guilt was gone , it was easier to set a boundary and say "I no longer accept blame from you", "I don't allow anyone to attack me today" and if they continue, I calmly walk away. I know they are hurting , but attacking and blaming is not going to get any of us well, you know? I try to encourage and love and accept as much as I am capable of right now, and when I learned to be gentler to myself , this also translated into my relationships. [/QUOTE]
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