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<blockquote data-quote="On_Call" data-source="post: 61089" data-attributes="member: 3211"><p>I'm sorry you are enduring the verbal garbage. Sending out some supportive hugs. Our difficult child can be rude - and have a horrendous tone of voice, but generally speaking, he is not insultive or abusive verbally unless he is in full meltdown mode - beyond that line in the sand where he goes beyond the point of no return.</p><p></p><p>When he is in full meltdown mode, we get things like "you big fat freak", etc. on a regular basis. He will say things like "you're a big fat liar and I hate you and wish you weren't born", etc., and some things that are much worse and that I won't even type. It makes me sad to type those things, because I know when he's in that mode he's in that untouchable place where nothing and no one can change the course of his behavior until it simply runs its course.</p><p></p><p>I have learned over the years to "shut it down" immediately too - probably similar to TM. Our difficult child may still think some of the things on a daily basis - and want to say them - but he doesn't. And if he comes close, I immediately correct it. He almost seems shocked at that point - like he didn't notice what he said was rude.</p><p></p><p>Good luck with this one. :angel:</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="On_Call, post: 61089, member: 3211"] I'm sorry you are enduring the verbal garbage. Sending out some supportive hugs. Our difficult child can be rude - and have a horrendous tone of voice, but generally speaking, he is not insultive or abusive verbally unless he is in full meltdown mode - beyond that line in the sand where he goes beyond the point of no return. When he is in full meltdown mode, we get things like "you big fat freak", etc. on a regular basis. He will say things like "you're a big fat liar and I hate you and wish you weren't born", etc., and some things that are much worse and that I won't even type. It makes me sad to type those things, because I know when he's in that mode he's in that untouchable place where nothing and no one can change the course of his behavior until it simply runs its course. I have learned over the years to "shut it down" immediately too - probably similar to TM. Our difficult child may still think some of the things on a daily basis - and want to say them - but he doesn't. And if he comes close, I immediately correct it. He almost seems shocked at that point - like he didn't notice what he said was rude. Good luck with this one. [img]:angel:[/img] [/QUOTE]
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