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How do you detached from messy emotional situations?
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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 545453" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Frankly I think you clearly have to find a way to cope with your delayed trauma completely separate from your difficult child and from your workplace. I'm not sure what to suggest. A therapist. A trusted close friend. A minister. Someone who cares about your feelings and will help you put distance or some detachment comfortably in place.</p><p></p><p>As you know we often address the subject of detachment in the CD family. Almost always it is about distancing ourselves from our difficult child's so we aren't absorbed by their behaviors. In your case the goal is to help you accept that poor choices were made some time ago that hurt your child...and worse yet, you know who caused the trauma. I can relate to your trauma because my easy child had emotional trauma during a senior trip unbeknowst to me. (She is 50 and honestly I could get teary eyed if I allowed myself to think about it.) Like you I learned about it much later. She was not harmed..just scared..</p><p>and she survived it as a character builder. I have never repeated the story and I don't regret that because my children were always told they could "share anything" with me and not be afraid of betrayal. Good luck in find your way through this emotional time. You can do it. Caring hugs. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 545453, member: 35"] Frankly I think you clearly have to find a way to cope with your delayed trauma completely separate from your difficult child and from your workplace. I'm not sure what to suggest. A therapist. A trusted close friend. A minister. Someone who cares about your feelings and will help you put distance or some detachment comfortably in place. As you know we often address the subject of detachment in the CD family. Almost always it is about distancing ourselves from our difficult child's so we aren't absorbed by their behaviors. In your case the goal is to help you accept that poor choices were made some time ago that hurt your child...and worse yet, you know who caused the trauma. I can relate to your trauma because my easy child had emotional trauma during a senior trip unbeknowst to me. (She is 50 and honestly I could get teary eyed if I allowed myself to think about it.) Like you I learned about it much later. She was not harmed..just scared.. and she survived it as a character builder. I have never repeated the story and I don't regret that because my children were always told they could "share anything" with me and not be afraid of betrayal. Good luck in find your way through this emotional time. You can do it. Caring hugs. DDD [/QUOTE]
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