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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 660497" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I learned how to be the perfect (exaggerated) mom to an adult child from my mother I law, may she rest in peace with the other true angels. Two words. Well three. Shut up and accept.</p><p>Their choices are none of our business anymore. Nothing annoys adult children more than a bossy, controlling, opinionated parent telling them what to do and criticizing their choices.</p><p>Unless she is asking for money or lodging from u, stay mum. Let her learn herself. Maybe her decision will work out and then you will be the bad guy.</p><p>Let her be her age.</p><p>I didn't mean to be harsh. I just know that adult kids are adults. They want your love and support unconditionally. If u have nothing nice to say, don't. If they as your opinion just say it is not your opinion that matters, it is how they feel.</p><p>You jeopardize your relationship when you get too pushy with your opinions. Would you have liked your own mother to tell you what to do at her age?</p><p>Grin it and bear it and bite they tongue. There may be things about her husband that she has not told u. It sounds bad but u don't live with her. If u get too outspoken she may not let u see your grandson. Don't do that. This is her issue, not yours whether it is hard to watch or not.</p><p>Big hug</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 660497, member: 1550"] I learned how to be the perfect (exaggerated) mom to an adult child from my mother I law, may she rest in peace with the other true angels. Two words. Well three. Shut up and accept. Their choices are none of our business anymore. Nothing annoys adult children more than a bossy, controlling, opinionated parent telling them what to do and criticizing their choices. Unless she is asking for money or lodging from u, stay mum. Let her learn herself. Maybe her decision will work out and then you will be the bad guy. Let her be her age. I didn't mean to be harsh. I just know that adult kids are adults. They want your love and support unconditionally. If u have nothing nice to say, don't. If they as your opinion just say it is not your opinion that matters, it is how they feel. You jeopardize your relationship when you get too pushy with your opinions. Would you have liked your own mother to tell you what to do at her age? Grin it and bear it and bite they tongue. There may be things about her husband that she has not told u. It sounds bad but u don't live with her. If u get too outspoken she may not let u see your grandson. Don't do that. This is her issue, not yours whether it is hard to watch or not. Big hug [/QUOTE]
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