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how do you dicipline when no consequences work??
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<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 553709"><p>Hello ST. Have you journaled what he's DOING before you make the request that sets him off? That was my key with difficult child 1. If he was in the middle of something when I made the demand, he'd rage. But I really started to pay attention to what he was doing and giving him a "time warning" like "when the next commercial comes on you need to ..." or "when you are done with that level in the game, you need to ..." or "when you're finished doing _________, you need to ...". Those really helped. He cannot switch gears like most kids can.</p><p></p><p>As for the discipline, I decided not to punish for things said in a rage. difficult child 1 would spew some of the most hurtful things when he was in the rage that he wouldn't even think of when in a "normal" frame of mind. And as someone else said, the consequences need to logical to HIM. Hole in the wall - fix the whole, throw something - pick it up, etc but not until the rage is completely over (for difficult child 1 that can be up to a half hour later).</p><p></p><p>I am going to Private Message you the name/location of the neuropsychologist we used in the Cities. He was wonderful and totally "right on the nose". ODD is not helpful at all and can even be damaging if the school deals with that like ours did. Also, an Occupational Therapist (OT) evaluation is definitely called for. </p><p></p><p>Glad you're sticking around. You'll love this place!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 553709"] Hello ST. Have you journaled what he's DOING before you make the request that sets him off? That was my key with difficult child 1. If he was in the middle of something when I made the demand, he'd rage. But I really started to pay attention to what he was doing and giving him a "time warning" like "when the next commercial comes on you need to ..." or "when you are done with that level in the game, you need to ..." or "when you're finished doing _________, you need to ...". Those really helped. He cannot switch gears like most kids can. As for the discipline, I decided not to punish for things said in a rage. difficult child 1 would spew some of the most hurtful things when he was in the rage that he wouldn't even think of when in a "normal" frame of mind. And as someone else said, the consequences need to logical to HIM. Hole in the wall - fix the whole, throw something - pick it up, etc but not until the rage is completely over (for difficult child 1 that can be up to a half hour later). I am going to Private Message you the name/location of the neuropsychologist we used in the Cities. He was wonderful and totally "right on the nose". ODD is not helpful at all and can even be damaging if the school deals with that like ours did. Also, an Occupational Therapist (OT) evaluation is definitely called for. Glad you're sticking around. You'll love this place!!! [/QUOTE]
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