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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 136852" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>It does sound like your husband is allowing the disrespect. Whether he agrees or not, you two need to be on the same page. Our kids are too good at triangulation.</p><p> </p><p>Mine was like yours, no consequences worked. Neither did rewards, really. At least not for the long term. Where possible, it was natural consequences. I'd be talking to the neighbors and tell them that unless you specifically called, she was not allowed over there and, if necessary, you'd call the police to come get her. That's the natural thing to do when kids run away.</p><p> </p><p>Violence should never be acceptable. Sadly, I never found a solution to this. From about age 9 on, I started calling the police every time she hit or kicked me. The goal wasn't to have her arrested but rather to get her to quit. I will say it didn't stop it entirely until her late teens, but it did slow it down. It quit becoming an automatic reflex, which, in some ways, was more frightening because it was thought out and controlled.</p><p> </p><p>I gave up on homework battles and simply had it put in her IEP that homework would be done after school at a special program the school had for honors students (she wasn't but they included her). That helped somewhat. Otherwise, she either did her homework or not. If not, she lost recess to do her homework. Her problem, not mine.</p><p> </p><p>I put a bolt high on the doors so my daughter couldn't leave when she wanted. Once she figured how to open those, I changed them to a keyed lock and carried the key on me at all times. Security alarms help a lot, too.</p><p> </p><p>I wish you luck on all of this. Getting our kids to follow basic rules is hard. It is even harder when both parents don't agree.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 136852, member: 3626"] It does sound like your husband is allowing the disrespect. Whether he agrees or not, you two need to be on the same page. Our kids are too good at triangulation. Mine was like yours, no consequences worked. Neither did rewards, really. At least not for the long term. Where possible, it was natural consequences. I'd be talking to the neighbors and tell them that unless you specifically called, she was not allowed over there and, if necessary, you'd call the police to come get her. That's the natural thing to do when kids run away. Violence should never be acceptable. Sadly, I never found a solution to this. From about age 9 on, I started calling the police every time she hit or kicked me. The goal wasn't to have her arrested but rather to get her to quit. I will say it didn't stop it entirely until her late teens, but it did slow it down. It quit becoming an automatic reflex, which, in some ways, was more frightening because it was thought out and controlled. I gave up on homework battles and simply had it put in her IEP that homework would be done after school at a special program the school had for honors students (she wasn't but they included her). That helped somewhat. Otherwise, she either did her homework or not. If not, she lost recess to do her homework. Her problem, not mine. I put a bolt high on the doors so my daughter couldn't leave when she wanted. Once she figured how to open those, I changed them to a keyed lock and carried the key on me at all times. Security alarms help a lot, too. I wish you luck on all of this. Getting our kids to follow basic rules is hard. It is even harder when both parents don't agree. [/QUOTE]
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