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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 449540" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Welcome to the board, NN</p><p></p><p>Suddenly discovering your child has been an addict for 17 yrs is quite an enormous thing to absorb. The best peice of advice I can think to give you is to find an al anon meeting and attend. (there may be ones specifically for addicts but where I live it was for both) Educating yourself is the best thing you can do.</p><p></p><p>Next thing I have to say may sound odd. The thing with addicts is, you can't diagnosis them with a mental disorder while they're using. Too many "addiction" behaviors mimic mental disorders to get an accurate diagnosis. Most of the time there is no mental disorder. It's just all addictive behavior. This was something that frustrated me no end with my best friend, who was addicted to heroine......and probably a few other things and was an alcoholic. She was also diagnosed with bipolar and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), and medicated for them. BUT her docs never knew she was an alcoholic nor addict. Finally when I went with her during her visits, I made sure they knew, but then she'd lie to them and tell them she was clean when she wasn't. A popular thing with addicts is to seek out mental health "treatment" to have access to prescription medication to either sell or use for reasons other than stability. Which is most reputable docs refuse to diagnosis an addict with a mental disorder until they've been clean and sober for several months. My bff literally got "drunk" off her medication.....the ones she couldn't use for this she sold to pay for her heroine.</p><p></p><p>No parent wants to see their child homeless. But being homeless isn't the end of the world. Nor does it mean you have to just put her on the street. You can contact local homeless shelters and have her taken there.</p><p></p><p>The problem with addicts and alcoholics is that they have to feel the consequences of their choices in order to eventually reach the point of seeking treatment. For many, this includes living on the street or much worse. The drug is their world, their universe. Regardless of what they say, it means more to them than anything else in the world. Their entire life is focused on getting that drug, and even when they do get it, on getting the next high. Nothing else matters. Not food, not clothing, not shelter, not family or friends. Nothing. It's all about the drug. Period. </p><p></p><p>I'm so very sorry you're having to deal with this. Addiction is a nightmare for everyone involved.</p><p></p><p>(((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 449540, member: 84"] Welcome to the board, NN Suddenly discovering your child has been an addict for 17 yrs is quite an enormous thing to absorb. The best peice of advice I can think to give you is to find an al anon meeting and attend. (there may be ones specifically for addicts but where I live it was for both) Educating yourself is the best thing you can do. Next thing I have to say may sound odd. The thing with addicts is, you can't diagnosis them with a mental disorder while they're using. Too many "addiction" behaviors mimic mental disorders to get an accurate diagnosis. Most of the time there is no mental disorder. It's just all addictive behavior. This was something that frustrated me no end with my best friend, who was addicted to heroine......and probably a few other things and was an alcoholic. She was also diagnosed with bipolar and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), and medicated for them. BUT her docs never knew she was an alcoholic nor addict. Finally when I went with her during her visits, I made sure they knew, but then she'd lie to them and tell them she was clean when she wasn't. A popular thing with addicts is to seek out mental health "treatment" to have access to prescription medication to either sell or use for reasons other than stability. Which is most reputable docs refuse to diagnosis an addict with a mental disorder until they've been clean and sober for several months. My bff literally got "drunk" off her medication.....the ones she couldn't use for this she sold to pay for her heroine. No parent wants to see their child homeless. But being homeless isn't the end of the world. Nor does it mean you have to just put her on the street. You can contact local homeless shelters and have her taken there. The problem with addicts and alcoholics is that they have to feel the consequences of their choices in order to eventually reach the point of seeking treatment. For many, this includes living on the street or much worse. The drug is their world, their universe. Regardless of what they say, it means more to them than anything else in the world. Their entire life is focused on getting that drug, and even when they do get it, on getting the next high. Nothing else matters. Not food, not clothing, not shelter, not family or friends. Nothing. It's all about the drug. Period. I'm so very sorry you're having to deal with this. Addiction is a nightmare for everyone involved. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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