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<blockquote data-quote="orcaauntie" data-source="post: 457317" data-attributes="member: 12721"><p>Very good point. Thank you. I agree. </p><p></p><p> </p><p>Now that it's the school year, it will definitely be much easier to keep her busy. She does track and basketball (though they are not passions, just "things to do") so we cannot wait for those to start up. Otherwise, I think Mom should keep her more busy, somehow. Grandma and Grandpa do take each kid out separately to try and bond which I think is great. My mom is not in the medical condition to play physical games with them and such. I think that maybe they could play board games, do crafts, bake, etc. They do some of these things but perhaps they need to try for more. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> </p><p></p><p></p><p>Another very good point! Thanks! While speaking with my Mom earlier today I explained to her that she needs to ease up. I do not recommend keeping her from her friends. The internet, Facebook, cell phone- sure.. but I think keeping her from friends is too much right now. She needs that interaction and freedom. Niece tries to do things Mom tells her not to, because Mom is trying to protect her a little too much. She needs to be able to make her own mistakes and learn from them. She cannot control her from doing things, or going places all of the time. She has taught her good values and I truly believe Niece knows right from wrong- so just trust that you've done well and she will be a good girl until she proves otherwise. She needs to allow my niece to go places, especially if there is no apparent danger. Example: The kids live to hang out at the park. My Mom has heard of "bad things" going on there, or whatever, so she does not like my Niece going there. I try to explain to Mom that if it makes her happy, and they are not doing anything dangerous or bad, what is the harm? Mom also does not like Niece going to best friend's house because her mom is not very involved, nor is very good at supervising. So Mom prefers best friend to come to their house, but best friend doesn't respect the house, makes messes with no regard to her behavior. I told Mom, while that sucks- would you prefer they be at best friend's house with Mom paying no attention, or at your house under your supervision? Pick your battles.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="orcaauntie, post: 457317, member: 12721"] Very good point. Thank you. I agree. Now that it's the school year, it will definitely be much easier to keep her busy. She does track and basketball (though they are not passions, just "things to do") so we cannot wait for those to start up. Otherwise, I think Mom should keep her more busy, somehow. Grandma and Grandpa do take each kid out separately to try and bond which I think is great. My mom is not in the medical condition to play physical games with them and such. I think that maybe they could play board games, do crafts, bake, etc. They do some of these things but perhaps they need to try for more. :) Another very good point! Thanks! While speaking with my Mom earlier today I explained to her that she needs to ease up. I do not recommend keeping her from her friends. The internet, Facebook, cell phone- sure.. but I think keeping her from friends is too much right now. She needs that interaction and freedom. Niece tries to do things Mom tells her not to, because Mom is trying to protect her a little too much. She needs to be able to make her own mistakes and learn from them. She cannot control her from doing things, or going places all of the time. She has taught her good values and I truly believe Niece knows right from wrong- so just trust that you've done well and she will be a good girl until she proves otherwise. She needs to allow my niece to go places, especially if there is no apparent danger. Example: The kids live to hang out at the park. My Mom has heard of "bad things" going on there, or whatever, so she does not like my Niece going there. I try to explain to Mom that if it makes her happy, and they are not doing anything dangerous or bad, what is the harm? Mom also does not like Niece going to best friend's house because her mom is not very involved, nor is very good at supervising. So Mom prefers best friend to come to their house, but best friend doesn't respect the house, makes messes with no regard to her behavior. I told Mom, while that sucks- would you prefer they be at best friend's house with Mom paying no attention, or at your house under your supervision? Pick your battles. [/QUOTE]
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