Confused...I never punished my kids for things that happened in school, especially if it was work related. I let the school do that. There WERE natural consequences. Jumper loves sports. In her freshman year she was failing history and it was from a hard teacher who liked to fail kids. But while she had a "fail" on her record, she had to sit out her sports and sh e pouted big time and talked about "not fair" but it wasn't on me. It was the rules of the sports league in Wisconsin. She got her grade up to a pass before long. She went for extra help. Watching her friends play basketball while she had to sit in the bleachers was enough punishment for her.
Sonic had "no homework" written in his IEP and that was a Godsend. His Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) makes it hard enough for him to sit through school let alone extend school to after school hours. He had some wonderful teachers and they jmade sure he got all of his work done before he came home. But we fought hard for the supports he got.
36 got into a different kind of trouble, like the time he pulled down his pants in front of a passing car, on a dare, and it was his sixth grade teacher's car. LOLOLOL! He was so scared that that alone was a wonderful punishment. Other than forcing him to write an apology and going to school, blushing, to apologize to his teacher myself, his nerves were a great consequence. This was the kind of thing we dealt with regarding Mr. 36. I got called to school all the time, but I let the school handle it. Trust me, they did.