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How do you handle lying?
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<blockquote data-quote="Allan-Matlem" data-source="post: 349749" data-attributes="member: 10"><p>Hi,</p><p>Lying is symptomatic of poor coping skills. When we are unconditional with kids, don't use blame or get mad at them but are just there to help them solve problems , they learn to trust us - the problem is that they cannot trust us to love them unconditionally even when they screw up or don't meet our expectations. Her real problem could be in the context of going out and finding a job. Instead of questioning her and making her feel she has to live up to certain expectations - we can simply say - I have noticed that you are not so happy when I ask you about job hunting , what's up ? Drilling down to find her concerns and lacking skills is not easy. When kids feel safe and have a vision that they can deal with their issues , get good help there is not much reason to lie</p><p>Allan</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Allan-Matlem, post: 349749, member: 10"] Hi, Lying is symptomatic of poor coping skills. When we are unconditional with kids, don't use blame or get mad at them but are just there to help them solve problems , they learn to trust us - the problem is that they cannot trust us to love them unconditionally even when they screw up or don't meet our expectations. Her real problem could be in the context of going out and finding a job. Instead of questioning her and making her feel she has to live up to certain expectations - we can simply say - I have noticed that you are not so happy when I ask you about job hunting , what's up ? Drilling down to find her concerns and lacking skills is not easy. When kids feel safe and have a vision that they can deal with their issues , get good help there is not much reason to lie Allan [/QUOTE]
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