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How do you handle your difficult child's neediness level?
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<blockquote data-quote="Jena" data-source="post: 216787" data-attributes="member: 4514"><p>really good points made by all. Thank you!!!</p><p> </p><p>I've started this process a few mos. ago a little here and there. Like for instance on Friday's we have "set" routine, and now i've been switching it up, she is totally disliking it yet i feel in time she will adhere. Just trying to teach her it's ok if something changes sort of thing.</p><p> </p><p>Yet the neediness has been a battle since birth her to be honest. So, today what I did was I had to finish up some painting in the house for xmas. I started and never finished. I said I'm going to go check my emails in my rm for a ten min. if you don't interrupt me and continue drawing when i come out we will do something together.</p><p> </p><p>Well, she banged on door twice. So, we began again and reset our mental timer on it. Took 2x trying yet she did get it and stayed away a whole ten minutes! now, may seem silly yet that's kinda how it is here with her. Than we painted two walls together and talked. She loved it. Than I did it again with something else, me showering. yes silly i know, but i don't get to shower peacefully lol. So, I said when I come out we'll pack your bag together for dad's, and pick out our cd's for the ride and pack a snack. </p><p> </p><p>I think I can get the hang of it. Wow it really does take alot of conscious thought though.</p><p> </p><p>Funny thing is i never given into the tantrums, yet I'm not handling her in a way in which to avoid them altogether. Which is what i need to do, like you guys said "give options", or make a plan in my head. difficult child mom time, than me time.</p><p> </p><p>When she tantrums she gets time out to go cool off. It's hard getting her in there to sit quietly yet after two or three tries she does stay put. than she has to come out, tell me what it is that she did that was disrespectful, etc. and apologize for her behavior we hug and than it's done.</p><p> </p><p>I learn more here than through her therapist lol. gotta laugh.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jena, post: 216787, member: 4514"] really good points made by all. Thank you!!! I've started this process a few mos. ago a little here and there. Like for instance on Friday's we have "set" routine, and now i've been switching it up, she is totally disliking it yet i feel in time she will adhere. Just trying to teach her it's ok if something changes sort of thing. Yet the neediness has been a battle since birth her to be honest. So, today what I did was I had to finish up some painting in the house for xmas. I started and never finished. I said I'm going to go check my emails in my rm for a ten min. if you don't interrupt me and continue drawing when i come out we will do something together. Well, she banged on door twice. So, we began again and reset our mental timer on it. Took 2x trying yet she did get it and stayed away a whole ten minutes! now, may seem silly yet that's kinda how it is here with her. Than we painted two walls together and talked. She loved it. Than I did it again with something else, me showering. yes silly i know, but i don't get to shower peacefully lol. So, I said when I come out we'll pack your bag together for dad's, and pick out our cd's for the ride and pack a snack. I think I can get the hang of it. Wow it really does take alot of conscious thought though. Funny thing is i never given into the tantrums, yet I'm not handling her in a way in which to avoid them altogether. Which is what i need to do, like you guys said "give options", or make a plan in my head. difficult child mom time, than me time. When she tantrums she gets time out to go cool off. It's hard getting her in there to sit quietly yet after two or three tries she does stay put. than she has to come out, tell me what it is that she did that was disrespectful, etc. and apologize for her behavior we hug and than it's done. I learn more here than through her therapist lol. gotta laugh. [/QUOTE]
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