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How do you help a homeless and suicidal son?
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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 739006" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>Hi Elsi - Welcome. These are hard decisions to make and a hard position to be in. On that I understand well. My son is only 26 but we have faced all of these choices multiple times due to his substance abuse addiction. He has been homeless and really having a son homeless is an awful think for a mother to face so I understand totally why you dont want to go through that either. Ireally dont want to go through it again. My son has also been in jail, which is also awful but much better than hjim being on the streets. Yet having a son living wiith you struggling with substaqnce use is also awful and will definitely interfer with your peac of mind and refuge. We have done that also. So my suggestion is to not have him come and live with you. I would not give him that as an option. Its not an option he probalby wants really given his age. So I would talk with him, find out what he wants, what he is willing to do, what solutions he comes up with if you are willing to help. Sober livings are an option. sometimes there are cheap rooming houses available if you are willing to help with rent. If he is serious about getting sober is he doing anything to help him get into recovery? I think part of it is having him be part of the solution. You cant save him if he is not willing to help save himself. You can help him save himself but you. Cant do all the work. You have the right for your home to be your sanctuary and a place where you have peace of mind....it is not selfish to want that. We had my son live with us for a year and I dont think we will ever let him live with us again..... but we are still helping him out.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 739006, member: 15801"] Hi Elsi - Welcome. These are hard decisions to make and a hard position to be in. On that I understand well. My son is only 26 but we have faced all of these choices multiple times due to his substance abuse addiction. He has been homeless and really having a son homeless is an awful think for a mother to face so I understand totally why you dont want to go through that either. Ireally dont want to go through it again. My son has also been in jail, which is also awful but much better than hjim being on the streets. Yet having a son living wiith you struggling with substaqnce use is also awful and will definitely interfer with your peac of mind and refuge. We have done that also. So my suggestion is to not have him come and live with you. I would not give him that as an option. Its not an option he probalby wants really given his age. So I would talk with him, find out what he wants, what he is willing to do, what solutions he comes up with if you are willing to help. Sober livings are an option. sometimes there are cheap rooming houses available if you are willing to help with rent. If he is serious about getting sober is he doing anything to help him get into recovery? I think part of it is having him be part of the solution. You cant save him if he is not willing to help save himself. You can help him save himself but you. Cant do all the work. You have the right for your home to be your sanctuary and a place where you have peace of mind....it is not selfish to want that. We had my son live with us for a year and I dont think we will ever let him live with us again..... but we are still helping him out. [/QUOTE]
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