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How do you help a homeless and suicidal son?
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 739008" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I think if you are honest with yourself, you do not want him to come.</p><p></p><p>There is nothing to feel guilty about. You live in paradise. Your home is a refuge. You are happy.</p><p></p><p>What person in their right mind would want to risk that?</p><p></p><p>Especially when there are all kinds of options for your son. And especially, because he is the one who is responsible to make his own life. While it might be appealing to solve his life by hijacking yours, this is only a fantasy. You would lose your life, and he would be in the same, perhaps worse, situation.</p><p></p><p>There are ways you can support him, without putting all that you have on the line.</p><p></p><p>We have brought my son home many times. NOT. ONE. TIME. Did it work. I will not do it again. (I hope.)</p><p></p><p>Welcome. I hope you stay for a while. Posting helps.</p><p></p><p>___</p><p></p><p>To answer more directly your question: You do not help a suicidal person directly except to call 911. We are not equipped to deal with the mental challenges of loved ones. Your son is suicidal either because he has mental illness, a spiritual crisis, or extreme stressors in his life. Or all of these together. In each of these circumstances there are resources available to him, should he choose to avail himself. As far as housing, there are community resources to help him. A few have been mentioned in this thread. But our kids prefer to seek ready made solutions, in the form of our help, our house, our money. We only hinder them, if we provide this. They have to seek their lives...and we have to tolerate their doing so.</p><p></p><p>It is very hard for us, when the lives they seek are so problematic, insecure and self-defeating. And this is why we are here, most of us, on this forum. To learn to live with this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 739008, member: 18958"] I think if you are honest with yourself, you do not want him to come. There is nothing to feel guilty about. You live in paradise. Your home is a refuge. You are happy. What person in their right mind would want to risk that? Especially when there are all kinds of options for your son. And especially, because he is the one who is responsible to make his own life. While it might be appealing to solve his life by hijacking yours, this is only a fantasy. You would lose your life, and he would be in the same, perhaps worse, situation. There are ways you can support him, without putting all that you have on the line. We have brought my son home many times. NOT. ONE. TIME. Did it work. I will not do it again. (I hope.) Welcome. I hope you stay for a while. Posting helps. ___ To answer more directly your question: You do not help a suicidal person directly except to call 911. We are not equipped to deal with the mental challenges of loved ones. Your son is suicidal either because he has mental illness, a spiritual crisis, or extreme stressors in his life. Or all of these together. In each of these circumstances there are resources available to him, should he choose to avail himself. As far as housing, there are community resources to help him. A few have been mentioned in this thread. But our kids prefer to seek ready made solutions, in the form of our help, our house, our money. We only hinder them, if we provide this. They have to seek their lives...and we have to tolerate their doing so. It is very hard for us, when the lives they seek are so problematic, insecure and self-defeating. And this is why we are here, most of us, on this forum. To learn to live with this. [/QUOTE]
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