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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 553427" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>Good morning!</p><p></p><p>Normal. Hmm. I guess I always viewed myself as "different" - but normal for ME - so I've never really been TOO worried about normal. (As in, what is normal for me would be round the bend for you, and so on.)</p><p></p><p>If this is his "thing", then, it is normal for HIM. It bothers others - <em>especially</em> the repetetive garbage. Jett heard the song "Don't Worry, Be Happy" when he was about 6 - and ever since then, if someone says "no worries" he will counter with "be happy". I rarely say "no worries" anymore; so the comeback isn't as frequent. Which means it's not nearly as annoying as it was. He and Onyxx also had something they said with their bio - "love you miss you mostest" - and he ambushes her - and husband - and me with it - 20-30 times a day. I finally explained to him that, since she has passed, it was a SPECIAL thing with them, and that it was fine with Onyxx, and if husband wanted too that was OK, but it made me sad. (He gets "sad" better than "annoyed".) So now I am out of that loop - and husband is too - but poor Onyxx. She finally explained if you say something too much, it loses its meaning and had him say "bubblegum" about 100 times in a row. So it has slowed down - but still, he annoys her with it. So - I think that's probably "normal" for your difficult child and mine. (Too bad they can't find something truly brilliant to repeat, eh?)</p><p></p><p>Bad jokes are another one. Jett cannot remember punch lines so he makes stuff up. I <em>finally</em> taught him the one - "2 guys walk into a bar... The third guy ducks." And then Friday he came home with one that I was prepared to roll my eyes at (lids closed of course) but - OMG it was actually groan-funny! "Why did the zombie eat the other zombie? Because the other zombie owed him lunch." (Bad, but - !!!) I was so proud, I made sure he told Onyxx, husband, and my parents...</p><p></p><p>Is it "normal" to be over-the-top happy when your kid tells a "bad" joke?</p><p></p><p>So... All of that said, you mentioned you only see the other kids "for about an hour a week". See, that is the problem with many of our doctors - they don't see the things we do, because they don't live with us. And a visit to their office is different for a child - so the behavior is different.</p><p></p><p>With our kids - we have to remind them - A LOT - of what is appropriate. I'm used to, but exasperated by, this... I've been doing it with Jett for 9 of his 14 years now. He has finally learned that standing within 2 inches of someone is not appropriate (got elbowed and his toes run over by the chair, both by accident); but will invade personal space at a whim. Just now remembering to knock on my bedroom door - within the last year. (Seeing stepmama nekkid helped that one along.) Just walks in. And will follow you around if he is "bored" (i.e., no video games or TV) - we call it the back pocket syndrome. (The too close bit is from his maternal grandma, who is Japanese.)</p><p></p><p>Another thing. Blowing raspberries with his sister, and an older guy walks by - I call the older guy a curmudgeon. difficult child is FOUR - not 14. Older guy should get over himself. (Of course, having Onyxx and Jett has made me see life a LOT differently...)</p><p></p><p>The separation anxiety is fairly common at that age... I apparently was bad about it, according to my Mom. SCREAMED when they left me until I got to ride the bus to school for 1st grade... They made it out to be an adventure that they were not allowed to go on because they were too old. By the time I figured it out... I was used to it. (Darned parents, anyway.)</p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/hugs.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":hugs:" title="hugs :hugs:" data-shortname=":hugs:" /> I think, you being the Mom AND being an Speech Language Pathologist (SLP), you have a pretty good idea... But in my opinion? "normal" isn't...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 553427, member: 6705"] Good morning! Normal. Hmm. I guess I always viewed myself as "different" - but normal for ME - so I've never really been TOO worried about normal. (As in, what is normal for me would be round the bend for you, and so on.) If this is his "thing", then, it is normal for HIM. It bothers others - [I]especially[/I] the repetetive garbage. Jett heard the song "Don't Worry, Be Happy" when he was about 6 - and ever since then, if someone says "no worries" he will counter with "be happy". I rarely say "no worries" anymore; so the comeback isn't as frequent. Which means it's not nearly as annoying as it was. He and Onyxx also had something they said with their bio - "love you miss you mostest" - and he ambushes her - and husband - and me with it - 20-30 times a day. I finally explained to him that, since she has passed, it was a SPECIAL thing with them, and that it was fine with Onyxx, and if husband wanted too that was OK, but it made me sad. (He gets "sad" better than "annoyed".) So now I am out of that loop - and husband is too - but poor Onyxx. She finally explained if you say something too much, it loses its meaning and had him say "bubblegum" about 100 times in a row. So it has slowed down - but still, he annoys her with it. So - I think that's probably "normal" for your difficult child and mine. (Too bad they can't find something truly brilliant to repeat, eh?) Bad jokes are another one. Jett cannot remember punch lines so he makes stuff up. I [I]finally[/I] taught him the one - "2 guys walk into a bar... The third guy ducks." And then Friday he came home with one that I was prepared to roll my eyes at (lids closed of course) but - OMG it was actually groan-funny! "Why did the zombie eat the other zombie? Because the other zombie owed him lunch." (Bad, but - !!!) I was so proud, I made sure he told Onyxx, husband, and my parents... Is it "normal" to be over-the-top happy when your kid tells a "bad" joke? So... All of that said, you mentioned you only see the other kids "for about an hour a week". See, that is the problem with many of our doctors - they don't see the things we do, because they don't live with us. And a visit to their office is different for a child - so the behavior is different. With our kids - we have to remind them - A LOT - of what is appropriate. I'm used to, but exasperated by, this... I've been doing it with Jett for 9 of his 14 years now. He has finally learned that standing within 2 inches of someone is not appropriate (got elbowed and his toes run over by the chair, both by accident); but will invade personal space at a whim. Just now remembering to knock on my bedroom door - within the last year. (Seeing stepmama nekkid helped that one along.) Just walks in. And will follow you around if he is "bored" (i.e., no video games or TV) - we call it the back pocket syndrome. (The too close bit is from his maternal grandma, who is Japanese.) Another thing. Blowing raspberries with his sister, and an older guy walks by - I call the older guy a curmudgeon. difficult child is FOUR - not 14. Older guy should get over himself. (Of course, having Onyxx and Jett has made me see life a LOT differently...) The separation anxiety is fairly common at that age... I apparently was bad about it, according to my Mom. SCREAMED when they left me until I got to ride the bus to school for 1st grade... They made it out to be an adventure that they were not allowed to go on because they were too old. By the time I figured it out... I was used to it. (Darned parents, anyway.) :hugs: I think, you being the Mom AND being an Speech Language Pathologist (SLP), you have a pretty good idea... But in my opinion? "normal" isn't... [/QUOTE]
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