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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 553450" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Well, having read your post, and having raised three kids without any autism/Aspergers, and one with high functioning autism, I think he is more like my Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) son than my typical kids. The biggest difference is that the other kids transitioned easily and well and seemed to know how to socialize with their same age peers from early ages. My Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) son did not, in fact sometimes he acted like nobody was there and we had his ears tested because if somebody talked to him, he sometimes wouldn't even look like he'd heard them. But he got over that and was quite social in his own way, but it wasn't like other typical kids and became a bigger problem as he got older and kids grew less tolerant. Like many Aspies (not all), he related better to adults, older kids and younger kids because they are more forgiving of social blights than same age peers. Same-age peers demand their own type of social norms and if you don't follow the unspoken rules, they can be very isolating, which is sad. Socializing is the key with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). If a child can not socialize normally, something is "off." Copying from the TV or what other kids/adults say (ad nauseum) is common in spectrum kids. </p><p></p><p>There is really no way for any of us however to tell you what is going on with your dear child, whom you love so much. We also get your apprehension. I can only repeat that taking him to a neuropsychologist is my best advice to you. A neuropsychologist is schooled in childhood behavior across the board. That would be my main goal. You can see the other professionals, if you like, later on, after getting a big picture, which can be very helpful in school and with peers. </p><p></p><p>I realize how hard it must be to understand "normal" from "he'll grow out of it" to "needs help" if you don't have much to reference from. Sonic was my third child and I had also worked on and off in preschools and had done foster care. We adopted him and from Day One, I thought "autism" of some sort. He did see SLTs (two worked with him twice a week), but they did not try to diagnose him nor did they see him enough, as you have said, to know if he had any issues beyond speech. </p><p></p><p>A good rule of thumb is: If you look around and see most of the other kids acting differently, your child is not like most kids. Is that bad? Depends on whether it is hurting him or not. If so, use your mom gut. Get him a complete evaluation. A label will not change who he is. It WILL however probably get him a lot of help, which can never be a bad thing.</p><p></p><p>Hugs! and take care <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 553450, member: 1550"] Well, having read your post, and having raised three kids without any autism/Aspergers, and one with high functioning autism, I think he is more like my Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) son than my typical kids. The biggest difference is that the other kids transitioned easily and well and seemed to know how to socialize with their same age peers from early ages. My Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) son did not, in fact sometimes he acted like nobody was there and we had his ears tested because if somebody talked to him, he sometimes wouldn't even look like he'd heard them. But he got over that and was quite social in his own way, but it wasn't like other typical kids and became a bigger problem as he got older and kids grew less tolerant. Like many Aspies (not all), he related better to adults, older kids and younger kids because they are more forgiving of social blights than same age peers. Same-age peers demand their own type of social norms and if you don't follow the unspoken rules, they can be very isolating, which is sad. Socializing is the key with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). If a child can not socialize normally, something is "off." Copying from the TV or what other kids/adults say (ad nauseum) is common in spectrum kids. There is really no way for any of us however to tell you what is going on with your dear child, whom you love so much. We also get your apprehension. I can only repeat that taking him to a neuropsychologist is my best advice to you. A neuropsychologist is schooled in childhood behavior across the board. That would be my main goal. You can see the other professionals, if you like, later on, after getting a big picture, which can be very helpful in school and with peers. I realize how hard it must be to understand "normal" from "he'll grow out of it" to "needs help" if you don't have much to reference from. Sonic was my third child and I had also worked on and off in preschools and had done foster care. We adopted him and from Day One, I thought "autism" of some sort. He did see SLTs (two worked with him twice a week), but they did not try to diagnose him nor did they see him enough, as you have said, to know if he had any issues beyond speech. A good rule of thumb is: If you look around and see most of the other kids acting differently, your child is not like most kids. Is that bad? Depends on whether it is hurting him or not. If so, use your mom gut. Get him a complete evaluation. A label will not change who he is. It WILL however probably get him a lot of help, which can never be a bad thing. Hugs! and take care :) [/QUOTE]
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