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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 71246" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>It seems to me that YOU really have a couple choices. You can remain a prisoner of their inability to parent and love or you can gather your children and your husband around your heart and make a difference in their lives; therefore moving on and ending the cycle of bad parenting.</p><p></p><p>You can go ahead and send the letter, but know that it is more cathartic for you than life-changing for your parents. They could read it, but I can assure you that it won't change how they act or how they feel.</p><p></p><p>You are in the position to change how you act and you feel. A warm fuzzy family with grandparents stopping over with hugs and fifty-cent pieces is the movies not real life. Your children will not miss what they not know or have ever had. </p><p></p><p>If you hold your family close, love your children unconditionally, respect each other, and make time to enjoy each other's company, you will be fufilled by what you have; not full of sorrow for what you don't. But the best part of it is that your children will learn how to be loving and supportive parents by watching you. That is the gift you can give your children - change the cycle started by your parents.</p><p></p><p>If you beleive you need to help get started on the road to letting go and forgetting by going to a therapist, please do so. You cannot continue to grieve and morn something that will never change and never go away. You have to make the change.</p><p></p><p>Lots of hugs and understanding,</p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 71246, member: 805"] It seems to me that YOU really have a couple choices. You can remain a prisoner of their inability to parent and love or you can gather your children and your husband around your heart and make a difference in their lives; therefore moving on and ending the cycle of bad parenting. You can go ahead and send the letter, but know that it is more cathartic for you than life-changing for your parents. They could read it, but I can assure you that it won't change how they act or how they feel. You are in the position to change how you act and you feel. A warm fuzzy family with grandparents stopping over with hugs and fifty-cent pieces is the movies not real life. Your children will not miss what they not know or have ever had. If you hold your family close, love your children unconditionally, respect each other, and make time to enjoy each other's company, you will be fufilled by what you have; not full of sorrow for what you don't. But the best part of it is that your children will learn how to be loving and supportive parents by watching you. That is the gift you can give your children - change the cycle started by your parents. If you beleive you need to help get started on the road to letting go and forgetting by going to a therapist, please do so. You cannot continue to grieve and morn something that will never change and never go away. You have to make the change. Lots of hugs and understanding, Sharon [/QUOTE]
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