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How do you maintain a positive paradigm?
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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 147761" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Steely, it isn't easy- especially with all you've had to deal with. What worked for me was writing down all my wishes about how I wish things could be (that I had some control over- even if it seemed like an impossible feat), then weeding out unrealistic things or things that I probably didn't really want enough to do what I needed to in order to get it, then that turned into my "goal list" (this was through counseling of course), then I made lists of steps that would need to be taken in order to accomplish those things, then each day I took as many of those steps as I could- I had to force myself at first and sometimes it would take a week to get through one step, but eventually, I got to reap a little benefit of accomplishment. This turns the "negative" cycle into the "positive" cycle. It is just one method, but it definitely worked for me. Whenever I feel overwhelmed with issues (like, since difficult child stuff), I keep my list of things that I know I need to do in order to achieve what I think will make me happy, which of course, is getting difficult child the help he needs and keeping things maintained as well as possible. Everyone's "list" is different, and it changes in various stages of our lives. I hope that helps....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 147761, member: 3699"] Steely, it isn't easy- especially with all you've had to deal with. What worked for me was writing down all my wishes about how I wish things could be (that I had some control over- even if it seemed like an impossible feat), then weeding out unrealistic things or things that I probably didn't really want enough to do what I needed to in order to get it, then that turned into my "goal list" (this was through counseling of course), then I made lists of steps that would need to be taken in order to accomplish those things, then each day I took as many of those steps as I could- I had to force myself at first and sometimes it would take a week to get through one step, but eventually, I got to reap a little benefit of accomplishment. This turns the "negative" cycle into the "positive" cycle. It is just one method, but it definitely worked for me. Whenever I feel overwhelmed with issues (like, since difficult child stuff), I keep my list of things that I know I need to do in order to achieve what I think will make me happy, which of course, is getting difficult child the help he needs and keeping things maintained as well as possible. Everyone's "list" is different, and it changes in various stages of our lives. I hope that helps.... [/QUOTE]
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