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<blockquote data-quote="dreamer" data-source="post: 147880" data-attributes="member: 1697"><p>Promise not to laugh at me? </p><p></p><p>THis might sound very silly, but.....I play with ...toys. I have Furbies on my car dashboard. When I am alone in the car, I make them dance and talk at stoplights. I have my own Cabbage Patch dolls. One sleeps on my bed, another has a high chair and sits in the kitchen. They have names and they are there for me to grab and get a quick hug. I have hot wheel cars. I have my own rubber duckie in the tub. I have my dog and our kitties. I watch my turtle and goldfish swim in their tank. The dog seems willing to sit and listen with his head on my lap no matter what I want to tell him, no matter how I feel, he looks at me with his trusting loveing eyes and seems to accept me no matter what my mood. The kitties take turns coming to brush up against me and pur at me. If they have that much confidence - I accept it, accept their love, accept their kindness....and it helps me be able to get up and function, helps me feel something "nice" and "good" </p><p>I have stickers, Smiley face stickers. SOme days I stick them all over the place. Looking at those goofy smiley faces I cannot help but smile in spite of myself, even if I am thinking "yeesh, how corney" </p><p>I make cookies. Ironically I do not eat the cookies and often neither do my kids, but....there is something about haveing my hands in the dough, and createing something-it helps. THen I package them up in little decorative containers and give them to people, neighbors, the lady at the desk at docs office.....etc. My pleasure comes from makeing them....my passing them out helps me get smiles from other people.....which helps make me feel betetr inside. </p><p>I was in day treatment and one other thing we did often was write self affirmations. There were many days I could not think of much positive, but they said we could fake it and then try to get ouself to believe what we wrote. SOmetimes that worked. They also had us write positive things on notecards and tape the notecards everywhere all over our house etc.....where we would see them.</p><p></p><p>Some days, for self preservation, I just hafta do my best to remind myself that just the sun shining on my face feels nice, and push anything else out of my head. </p><p>In recent years I have begun to focus on how my clothing feels on me, how the fabric feels to my touch, soft fabrics that are comforting and extra soft-- little things like that, how pudding feels so comforting on my tongue, how hand lotion feels so nice being applied. (like little tiny hugs) and give in to those things and how they feel.....grab that good feeling and hold on to it. Little tiny self nurturing things. JUst listening t a kitty purr while I pet him....absorbing those things, hanging on to those feelings......</p><p></p><p>hope that helps.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dreamer, post: 147880, member: 1697"] Promise not to laugh at me? THis might sound very silly, but.....I play with ...toys. I have Furbies on my car dashboard. When I am alone in the car, I make them dance and talk at stoplights. I have my own Cabbage Patch dolls. One sleeps on my bed, another has a high chair and sits in the kitchen. They have names and they are there for me to grab and get a quick hug. I have hot wheel cars. I have my own rubber duckie in the tub. I have my dog and our kitties. I watch my turtle and goldfish swim in their tank. The dog seems willing to sit and listen with his head on my lap no matter what I want to tell him, no matter how I feel, he looks at me with his trusting loveing eyes and seems to accept me no matter what my mood. The kitties take turns coming to brush up against me and pur at me. If they have that much confidence - I accept it, accept their love, accept their kindness....and it helps me be able to get up and function, helps me feel something "nice" and "good" I have stickers, Smiley face stickers. SOme days I stick them all over the place. Looking at those goofy smiley faces I cannot help but smile in spite of myself, even if I am thinking "yeesh, how corney" I make cookies. Ironically I do not eat the cookies and often neither do my kids, but....there is something about haveing my hands in the dough, and createing something-it helps. THen I package them up in little decorative containers and give them to people, neighbors, the lady at the desk at docs office.....etc. My pleasure comes from makeing them....my passing them out helps me get smiles from other people.....which helps make me feel betetr inside. I was in day treatment and one other thing we did often was write self affirmations. There were many days I could not think of much positive, but they said we could fake it and then try to get ouself to believe what we wrote. SOmetimes that worked. They also had us write positive things on notecards and tape the notecards everywhere all over our house etc.....where we would see them. Some days, for self preservation, I just hafta do my best to remind myself that just the sun shining on my face feels nice, and push anything else out of my head. In recent years I have begun to focus on how my clothing feels on me, how the fabric feels to my touch, soft fabrics that are comforting and extra soft-- little things like that, how pudding feels so comforting on my tongue, how hand lotion feels so nice being applied. (like little tiny hugs) and give in to those things and how they feel.....grab that good feeling and hold on to it. Little tiny self nurturing things. JUst listening t a kitty purr while I pet him....absorbing those things, hanging on to those feelings...... hope that helps. [/QUOTE]
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