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How do YOU prioritize behaviors?
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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 535692" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>I also look at whether there are alternatives. If the setting causes problems for difficult child (for example, a late evening...), we find an alternative for difficult child to not have to be there. When the problem behavior has an avoidable trigger... it isn't fair to set difficult child up to fail and then punish.</p><p></p><p>After "safety", which applies everywhere, and includes keeping other family members safe... </p><p>The next priority on behaviors to work on is always things related to school, because that is the key to the future ... jobs, further education, etc. </p><p>Of those, anything that has working accommodations goes to bucket C. I don't care how long difficult child needs the accommodations, if there's other stuff to work on, those go to the bottom of the list.</p><p>So... independently producing a 5-page handwritten essay? forget it. </p><p>Doing his defined tasks, asking for help, using tools available, and handing in the assignment... work on. Bucket B.</p><p></p><p>And then... how big is bucket B? Ours usually overflows.</p><p>So, we get school to pick 3 that apply to them, and we pick one or two for outside of school. And the rest become Cs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 535692, member: 11791"] I also look at whether there are alternatives. If the setting causes problems for difficult child (for example, a late evening...), we find an alternative for difficult child to not have to be there. When the problem behavior has an avoidable trigger... it isn't fair to set difficult child up to fail and then punish. After "safety", which applies everywhere, and includes keeping other family members safe... The next priority on behaviors to work on is always things related to school, because that is the key to the future ... jobs, further education, etc. Of those, anything that has working accommodations goes to bucket C. I don't care how long difficult child needs the accommodations, if there's other stuff to work on, those go to the bottom of the list. So... independently producing a 5-page handwritten essay? forget it. Doing his defined tasks, asking for help, using tools available, and handing in the assignment... work on. Bucket B. And then... how big is bucket B? Ours usually overflows. So, we get school to pick 3 that apply to them, and we pick one or two for outside of school. And the rest become Cs. [/QUOTE]
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