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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 495077" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>I understand Signorina. I guess mine is locked up and safe...but still I don't know what the future holds. </p><p></p><p>Nice to meet you AlabamaGirl. </p><p>I have tried Al Anon but it's been a number of years. Plus while I was there (long story short) I had a psychotic breakdown. It was all "spiritually based" breakdown if you will: G-d talking to me, hearing people at AA saying things they weren't, Demon look in their eyes, etc. I know I have mental illness and that the pyschotic breakdown was brought upon by bipolar mania: no sleep or food for days, but still I have not been to regular meetings since this happend to me. by the way my oldest difficult child was in prison at that time. I have a VERY hard time when my difficult child's are locked up. </p><p>Good for you for taking care of number one...I need to do this as well. </p><p>No, young difficult child is not on any medications at this time. He abuses pills. Was involved with pain killers for heart condition then came a back condition, now strickly alcohol as I think medicaid got wind of his sub abuse for the pain killers. </p><p>Young difficult child, when hospitalised, only tells them of depression and anxiety...not the whole picture. He gets rxd benzos and antidepressants which I think only make his Bipolar worse. He was dxd Bipolar at age 14 but seems to reject the evidence, notion, that this is his condition. I think it scares him to think he has Bipolar Disorder (like me). </p><p>I hope that saying no will prove to be a loving/progressive act if this is what it comes down to. </p><p></p><p>I just spoke with my daughter in law a short while ago. Young difficult child called her today with a prepaid account of some kind. She spoke with him about 15 mins. He told her that he thinks his probation is being revoked and that he may spend a year in jail...but she said she did not understand him well that their connection was not good. He also told her to thank me for the money I sent for commisary and letter and picture of his children. He said Christmas was very lonely and that he especially missed his kids. She also said that young difficult child told her that he is tired of alcohol. </p><p>I reminded daughter in law that these are HIS consequences...that we all tried to prevent anything bad from happening with young difficult child but could not. Was a run-away-train. </p><p></p><p>Thanks you two for the care. I have to start believing in my young difficult child. </p><p>I know I know I KNOW that my actions must say to him that I don't believe he can do it or that he is incompetant. But I have been afraid...afraid that he will kill himself or do something again to wind up in jail longer (if we kick him out) etc. </p><p>I have got to stop letting fear dictate my behavior towards young difficult child. </p><p>I so want him to become a productive citizen, a really good providing father/husband, and mostly sober. Not just "dry" but really sober...leaning on a power greater than himself to help him through each day. I can't even give him G-d though. Young difficult child's last discussion of G-d lead me to believe that he believes in Cosmic Evolution (whatever the heck that is/roll eyes) rather than G-d. </p><p></p><p>LMS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 495077, member: 3305"] I understand Signorina. I guess mine is locked up and safe...but still I don't know what the future holds. Nice to meet you AlabamaGirl. I have tried Al Anon but it's been a number of years. Plus while I was there (long story short) I had a psychotic breakdown. It was all "spiritually based" breakdown if you will: G-d talking to me, hearing people at AA saying things they weren't, Demon look in their eyes, etc. I know I have mental illness and that the pyschotic breakdown was brought upon by bipolar mania: no sleep or food for days, but still I have not been to regular meetings since this happend to me. by the way my oldest difficult child was in prison at that time. I have a VERY hard time when my difficult child's are locked up. Good for you for taking care of number one...I need to do this as well. No, young difficult child is not on any medications at this time. He abuses pills. Was involved with pain killers for heart condition then came a back condition, now strickly alcohol as I think medicaid got wind of his sub abuse for the pain killers. Young difficult child, when hospitalised, only tells them of depression and anxiety...not the whole picture. He gets rxd benzos and antidepressants which I think only make his Bipolar worse. He was dxd Bipolar at age 14 but seems to reject the evidence, notion, that this is his condition. I think it scares him to think he has Bipolar Disorder (like me). I hope that saying no will prove to be a loving/progressive act if this is what it comes down to. I just spoke with my daughter in law a short while ago. Young difficult child called her today with a prepaid account of some kind. She spoke with him about 15 mins. He told her that he thinks his probation is being revoked and that he may spend a year in jail...but she said she did not understand him well that their connection was not good. He also told her to thank me for the money I sent for commisary and letter and picture of his children. He said Christmas was very lonely and that he especially missed his kids. She also said that young difficult child told her that he is tired of alcohol. I reminded daughter in law that these are HIS consequences...that we all tried to prevent anything bad from happening with young difficult child but could not. Was a run-away-train. Thanks you two for the care. I have to start believing in my young difficult child. I know I know I KNOW that my actions must say to him that I don't believe he can do it or that he is incompetant. But I have been afraid...afraid that he will kill himself or do something again to wind up in jail longer (if we kick him out) etc. I have got to stop letting fear dictate my behavior towards young difficult child. I so want him to become a productive citizen, a really good providing father/husband, and mostly sober. Not just "dry" but really sober...leaning on a power greater than himself to help him through each day. I can't even give him G-d though. Young difficult child's last discussion of G-d lead me to believe that he believes in Cosmic Evolution (whatever the heck that is/roll eyes) rather than G-d. LMS [/QUOTE]
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