Try as we like, once our kiddos are grown and making decisions, we cannot change what they do.
I have to believe in my heart that your daughter is making decisions that are what she needs right now. I say that because, for heavens sake, she just finished basic training (which is no easy task) and she's in the middle of her training. The military prides itself on order, loyalty, etc, etc.
There must be other stuff happening in her life with her husband that you are not privy. If she's changed her life insurance to you as the benificiary and not her husband...that says alot right there.
I guess, if it were me, I'd put behind what my feelings were and support my daughter in what her desires are.
She is legally still married to this guy. They still have legal joint custody of their child. It's really up to them to figure out who does what and who stays where.
Although it is VERY difficult, I would try and stay out of it and not show any disappointment or take sides. I also wouldn't be discussing anything with her husband.
I don't think you are being a hypocrit either. You are being a concerned mom who is just confused by your daughter's decisions.
