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<blockquote data-quote="raraavis" data-source="post: 708845" data-attributes="member: 20646"><p>Thank you, Copabana for all the suggestions. I knew he was not ok since he was an infant. He was not just having colic, his cry was not that of a baby, was an absolute hysterical cry. I have never seen or heard anything like it. He was 4 months old when it first occurred to me that he might be mentally ill just by the way he was crying (physically he looked perfectly normal). So I contacted early intervention before he was 2. He has been in speech therapy, Occupational Therapist (OT), play therapy since then. We hired a behaviorist to come over to our house and do an FBA (functional behavioral analysis) when he was 2. Despite his being a toddler, I knew those monster tantrums were not typical toddler tantrums. Had another FBA at 3. Got kicked out from everywhere, we put him in ABA ( behavior therapy) daily for 10 months. They threw their hands in the air and said they never saw something like that and did not know how to handle him, because nothing worked. It makes sense why: it was not because of lack of skills, it was because of his mental illness which is so unpredictable that you can`t train. It is a chemical imbalance that all the consequences in the world will not fix.</p><p>He just had another FBA done at school by the school psychologist. we will have our private therapist go in to observe his class as well. The only thing we get out of the FBA is that he is seeking attention and escape.</p><p>He was evaluated by a few neurologists, 3 psychiatrists, 2 therapists, had very comprehensive neuropsychiatric evaluation done at 2.5 and 5.5 yo. His IQ is close to 90 (they think lower than it probably is because of noncompliance), so he is not intellectually disabled, people say he is bright.</p><p>Given his medical problems, I cannot possibly put him in a residential place while undergoing chemo. This is a very long term treatment of maybe 18 months and might be needed off and on for years depending on how the tumor behaves (if it stops growing or starts regrowing). Also, if we put him in the residential place, we might have to hire bodyguards when he gets out as he would absolutely kill us after that. He is extremely vindictive and wants to be "the boss of the world". Most times he just misinterprets things and situations. Eg: my mom was doing the dishes, he went over and threw something at her head because she "did not want to play with me". Of course he did not say a word about wanting to play. If somebody does not pay attention to him because they are busy doing something else, he thinks the person hates him and he goes attacks the person. This looks like paranoia to me. You are absolutely right this is not his fault at all. I know it very well and my heart breaks for him every day. I try really hard to be understanding, but it is so hard to keep calm when you are being attacked and get threats of being killed every day. I cannot even show too much empathy for his medical problems, because his horrible behavior supersedes everything. It is such a horrible, worst imaginable situation.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="raraavis, post: 708845, member: 20646"] Thank you, Copabana for all the suggestions. I knew he was not ok since he was an infant. He was not just having colic, his cry was not that of a baby, was an absolute hysterical cry. I have never seen or heard anything like it. He was 4 months old when it first occurred to me that he might be mentally ill just by the way he was crying (physically he looked perfectly normal). So I contacted early intervention before he was 2. He has been in speech therapy, Occupational Therapist (OT), play therapy since then. We hired a behaviorist to come over to our house and do an FBA (functional behavioral analysis) when he was 2. Despite his being a toddler, I knew those monster tantrums were not typical toddler tantrums. Had another FBA at 3. Got kicked out from everywhere, we put him in ABA ( behavior therapy) daily for 10 months. They threw their hands in the air and said they never saw something like that and did not know how to handle him, because nothing worked. It makes sense why: it was not because of lack of skills, it was because of his mental illness which is so unpredictable that you can`t train. It is a chemical imbalance that all the consequences in the world will not fix. He just had another FBA done at school by the school psychologist. we will have our private therapist go in to observe his class as well. The only thing we get out of the FBA is that he is seeking attention and escape. He was evaluated by a few neurologists, 3 psychiatrists, 2 therapists, had very comprehensive neuropsychiatric evaluation done at 2.5 and 5.5 yo. His IQ is close to 90 (they think lower than it probably is because of noncompliance), so he is not intellectually disabled, people say he is bright. Given his medical problems, I cannot possibly put him in a residential place while undergoing chemo. This is a very long term treatment of maybe 18 months and might be needed off and on for years depending on how the tumor behaves (if it stops growing or starts regrowing). Also, if we put him in the residential place, we might have to hire bodyguards when he gets out as he would absolutely kill us after that. He is extremely vindictive and wants to be "the boss of the world". Most times he just misinterprets things and situations. Eg: my mom was doing the dishes, he went over and threw something at her head because she "did not want to play with me". Of course he did not say a word about wanting to play. If somebody does not pay attention to him because they are busy doing something else, he thinks the person hates him and he goes attacks the person. This looks like paranoia to me. You are absolutely right this is not his fault at all. I know it very well and my heart breaks for him every day. I try really hard to be understanding, but it is so hard to keep calm when you are being attacked and get threats of being killed every day. I cannot even show too much empathy for his medical problems, because his horrible behavior supersedes everything. It is such a horrible, worst imaginable situation. [/QUOTE]
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