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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 708967" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hmmmm. That post got me mad. A psychologist, also expensive, said in front of my son (age 4, but he understood) "There is nothing we can do for THESE kids!" He meant kids who were drug /alcohol exposed in utero.</p><p></p><p>I have wanted to write to him many times since then. "Idiot! You were wrong!"</p><p></p><p>Which brigs me to this.</p><p></p><p>Not even the best expert can say for sure if a child will act out violently or not. Nor will he or she promise. All the school shooters had gotten help before hand and none of them were nabbed as dangerous.</p><p></p><p>If you feel afraid of him, trust your gut. If you have other children or pets especially. We adopted an 11 year old boy and every mental health care professional he saw since he was little thought he was a sweet, timid kid who had cognitive delays.</p><p></p><p>They were all wrong. He killed two of our precious dogs by strangulation and molested my two youngest children. He held a knife to their throats. We have reason to believe he abused kids at school too and may have killed neighborhood pets. </p><p></p><p>Once we were not in ignorant limbo, we had to send him away and we undid the adoption. Later we found out he said to the professionals at the lock down residential he was at that he had been touching kids since he was five. And nobody caught it.</p><p></p><p>Obviously he was slso abused somewhere, although he doesnt remember, and that is very sad. But we could not risk him around our kids and animals ever again. It was only through CPS aid and our strong marriage that all of us survived and ate doing well.</p><p></p><p>And all those professional mental health exprts were wrong. Wrong. Wrong. Trust yourself. You need to be safe. And your son needs possibly more help than you can give. And cancer!! I feel like he just got dealt such a bad deck of cards. I do think, due to his age, there could be hope if he is evaluated and intensively treated. But do what you feel is safest. Not even a top psychiatrist can give you a guarantee and I dont think any will do so for their own legal protection and because they really cant promise.</p><p></p><p>You have my heartfelt empathy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 708967, member: 1550"] Hmmmm. That post got me mad. A psychologist, also expensive, said in front of my son (age 4, but he understood) "There is nothing we can do for THESE kids!" He meant kids who were drug /alcohol exposed in utero. I have wanted to write to him many times since then. "Idiot! You were wrong!" Which brigs me to this. Not even the best expert can say for sure if a child will act out violently or not. Nor will he or she promise. All the school shooters had gotten help before hand and none of them were nabbed as dangerous. If you feel afraid of him, trust your gut. If you have other children or pets especially. We adopted an 11 year old boy and every mental health care professional he saw since he was little thought he was a sweet, timid kid who had cognitive delays. They were all wrong. He killed two of our precious dogs by strangulation and molested my two youngest children. He held a knife to their throats. We have reason to believe he abused kids at school too and may have killed neighborhood pets. Once we were not in ignorant limbo, we had to send him away and we undid the adoption. Later we found out he said to the professionals at the lock down residential he was at that he had been touching kids since he was five. And nobody caught it. Obviously he was slso abused somewhere, although he doesnt remember, and that is very sad. But we could not risk him around our kids and animals ever again. It was only through CPS aid and our strong marriage that all of us survived and ate doing well. And all those professional mental health exprts were wrong. Wrong. Wrong. Trust yourself. You need to be safe. And your son needs possibly more help than you can give. And cancer!! I feel like he just got dealt such a bad deck of cards. I do think, due to his age, there could be hope if he is evaluated and intensively treated. But do what you feel is safest. Not even a top psychiatrist can give you a guarantee and I dont think any will do so for their own legal protection and because they really cant promise. You have my heartfelt empathy. [/QUOTE]
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