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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 369496" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>The ONLY way you are EVER going to keep him out of things is to install locks. Physical problem, he gets into everything. Physical solution, make sure nothing opens except what is his . It is NOT fun, but it is the ONLY way you are going to change things. Until he no longer enters your home. He recognizes no boundaries and this isn't likely to change. Only when he starts getting into legal trouble will there be any change possible, and you are not likely to get any help from the police if he gets into your stuff. </p><p></p><p>Even put locks on the kitchen door if you have one and one every cabinet and the fridge. I would use a big chain around the fridge. Keep your keys on your person at all times. </p><p></p><p>What does the doctor say about the encopresis? What happens if you add benefiber or miralax to something he likes to drink? Doesn't matter much what it is, keep it locked up and make it a special treat. If he won't drink it out of a glass, use a funnel to put it in the drink container for each portion just before you give it to him. You may need to pour out a few ounces of the drink to make up for the medicine, but it may work. </p><p></p><p>What about depends? Are you willing to battle to get him to wear them until he is more responsible about the toilet and the issues? I don't know if it would help or make things worse, so you might want to think about that before you bring it up. </p><p></p><p>Has he seen a doctor and been scoped to make sure there is no physical problem behind the encopresis? In some people the nerves don't develop or work properly so teh person has little control over this. It is unlikely, but for some kids the whole cleanout and scope issue helps because they never want to go through it again. If it has been a while since he was examined and scoped it should probably be done again. Make sure you ask the doctor about miralax and fiber.</p><p></p><p>You may have to ration the toilet paper and keep towels, washcloths, all paper products, etc... out of the bathroom. Lock them up in the bathroom cabinets if you need to. When he has to use the bathroom he has to ask for toilet paper. If there is anything else he can stuff into the toilet, he will. So if you have a half bath it would be the perfect place to have open for his use. Unlock the bathroom for showers under supervision until you can trust him. Have husband supervise by sitting in the bathroom with a book. Again, not fun, not the way it "should" be, but the only way it is going to change. If you don't have a half bath, it is going to be important that NO ONE leaves towels in the bathroom or leaves it unlocked. Put a door closer on the door and make the lock one that locks every time the door closes. It will stop a lot of the battles to get everyone to remember to lock the door. </p><p></p><p>I am sorry it is so difficult. having a difficult child is really awful in so many ways, isn't it?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 369496, member: 1233"] The ONLY way you are EVER going to keep him out of things is to install locks. Physical problem, he gets into everything. Physical solution, make sure nothing opens except what is his . It is NOT fun, but it is the ONLY way you are going to change things. Until he no longer enters your home. He recognizes no boundaries and this isn't likely to change. Only when he starts getting into legal trouble will there be any change possible, and you are not likely to get any help from the police if he gets into your stuff. Even put locks on the kitchen door if you have one and one every cabinet and the fridge. I would use a big chain around the fridge. Keep your keys on your person at all times. What does the doctor say about the encopresis? What happens if you add benefiber or miralax to something he likes to drink? Doesn't matter much what it is, keep it locked up and make it a special treat. If he won't drink it out of a glass, use a funnel to put it in the drink container for each portion just before you give it to him. You may need to pour out a few ounces of the drink to make up for the medicine, but it may work. What about depends? Are you willing to battle to get him to wear them until he is more responsible about the toilet and the issues? I don't know if it would help or make things worse, so you might want to think about that before you bring it up. Has he seen a doctor and been scoped to make sure there is no physical problem behind the encopresis? In some people the nerves don't develop or work properly so teh person has little control over this. It is unlikely, but for some kids the whole cleanout and scope issue helps because they never want to go through it again. If it has been a while since he was examined and scoped it should probably be done again. Make sure you ask the doctor about miralax and fiber. You may have to ration the toilet paper and keep towels, washcloths, all paper products, etc... out of the bathroom. Lock them up in the bathroom cabinets if you need to. When he has to use the bathroom he has to ask for toilet paper. If there is anything else he can stuff into the toilet, he will. So if you have a half bath it would be the perfect place to have open for his use. Unlock the bathroom for showers under supervision until you can trust him. Have husband supervise by sitting in the bathroom with a book. Again, not fun, not the way it "should" be, but the only way it is going to change. If you don't have a half bath, it is going to be important that NO ONE leaves towels in the bathroom or leaves it unlocked. Put a door closer on the door and make the lock one that locks every time the door closes. It will stop a lot of the battles to get everyone to remember to lock the door. I am sorry it is so difficult. having a difficult child is really awful in so many ways, isn't it? [/QUOTE]
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