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<blockquote data-quote="Estherfromjerusalem" data-source="post: 369510" data-attributes="member: 77"><p>Wakeupcall, that is wonderful that he has two friends in the house right now.</p><p></p><p>My difficult child wouldn't talk about "the problem", it was a taboo subject. But somehow you have to work out a system so that he changes himself and washes, as soon as he poohs. Maybe you can use the fact that he has friends who come to the house, and that he won't want them to smell how bad it is in his room, as a lever to make him clean himself up each time. We NEVER used punishments or anything like that with our child, and we never forced him to wash out his clothes -- he couldn't! But the one thing I did insist on was that as soon as he was dirty/smelly (which one of us had to tell him because he didn't smell it himself), he HAD to go and shower and change clothes, and he HAD to put the dirty stuff in a bucket with a lid on it, which was outside on the porch just outside the bathroom. I made sure he had loads and loads of clean clothes, and I dealt with all the washing of the cr*p, literally. I just felt I had to somehow help him get a life, even though he had encopresis. You have to work out a system that will work for you. There is no need for his room to be so smelly. Get a large bucket with a good fitting lid for him to put the clothes in as a first step, and then work something out from there.</p><p></p><p>By the way, I NEVER made him wear depends or anything like that.</p><p></p><p>To this day, I don't know if what I did was right or wrong. I think it was right, for us. On the other hand, since he is my youngest child and the oldest is 17 years older than him (there are eight children), it meant that I was dealing with cr*p for 30 years, so it was no wonder that just that fact got me very depressed in the end.</p><p></p><p>Everyone has to find their own way of working out how to cope with the details step by step.</p><p></p><p>Love, Esther</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Estherfromjerusalem, post: 369510, member: 77"] Wakeupcall, that is wonderful that he has two friends in the house right now. My difficult child wouldn't talk about "the problem", it was a taboo subject. But somehow you have to work out a system so that he changes himself and washes, as soon as he poohs. Maybe you can use the fact that he has friends who come to the house, and that he won't want them to smell how bad it is in his room, as a lever to make him clean himself up each time. We NEVER used punishments or anything like that with our child, and we never forced him to wash out his clothes -- he couldn't! But the one thing I did insist on was that as soon as he was dirty/smelly (which one of us had to tell him because he didn't smell it himself), he HAD to go and shower and change clothes, and he HAD to put the dirty stuff in a bucket with a lid on it, which was outside on the porch just outside the bathroom. I made sure he had loads and loads of clean clothes, and I dealt with all the washing of the cr*p, literally. I just felt I had to somehow help him get a life, even though he had encopresis. You have to work out a system that will work for you. There is no need for his room to be so smelly. Get a large bucket with a good fitting lid for him to put the clothes in as a first step, and then work something out from there. By the way, I NEVER made him wear depends or anything like that. To this day, I don't know if what I did was right or wrong. I think it was right, for us. On the other hand, since he is my youngest child and the oldest is 17 years older than him (there are eight children), it meant that I was dealing with cr*p for 30 years, so it was no wonder that just that fact got me very depressed in the end. Everyone has to find their own way of working out how to cope with the details step by step. Love, Esther [/QUOTE]
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