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How has parenting a difficult child changed you?
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 562487" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p><span style="color: #0000ff"><em>"difficult child's descent into chaos triggered a number of irreparable separations in my life. Strangely, those people haven't left any holes behind them -- my life closed up around them and they're not really missing from my world."</em></span><span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span>Yes, Trinityroyal (love your name by the way) that is so true! I've had many <em>"illusionectomies</em>" as a friend used to say............I was just talking about this last night in the therapy group...................that detaching from my difficult child has opened many doors of perception previously nailed shut, and much 'stuff' I was willing to adapt to, put up with, endure, look the other way about, justify, accept as reasonable or tolerate, is just not happening. My BS meter is well oiled and working at maximum efficiency. But, it's more then that, I just deserve to be treated with a certain amount of respect and dignity which I now insist upon, and I think, command to a certain degree because I am acutely aware of NOT getting that and the ways in which I permitted disrespect. You said it well, "forged your soul in steel." I get it. I call it radical self love.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 562487, member: 13542"] [COLOR=#0000ff][I]"difficult child's descent into chaos triggered a number of irreparable separations in my life. Strangely, those people haven't left any holes behind them -- my life closed up around them and they're not really missing from my world."[/I][/COLOR][COLOR=#000000] [/COLOR]Yes, Trinityroyal (love your name by the way) that is so true! I've had many [I]"illusionectomies[/I]" as a friend used to say............I was just talking about this last night in the therapy group...................that detaching from my difficult child has opened many doors of perception previously nailed shut, and much 'stuff' I was willing to adapt to, put up with, endure, look the other way about, justify, accept as reasonable or tolerate, is just not happening. My BS meter is well oiled and working at maximum efficiency. But, it's more then that, I just deserve to be treated with a certain amount of respect and dignity which I now insist upon, and I think, command to a certain degree because I am acutely aware of NOT getting that and the ways in which I permitted disrespect. You said it well, "forged your soul in steel." I get it. I call it radical self love. [/QUOTE]
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