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<blockquote data-quote="pigless in VA" data-source="post: 534871" data-attributes="member: 11832"><p><span style="color: #0000FF">Upallnight, please let go of the guilt over your mother in law. I loved my husband deeply, and we were very close when he was well. Mental illness causes the affected person to not feel love. They cannot be reached by love and compassion; they need to be in a hospital, and they need to find the right medication that works for them. Also, you had a right to be angry for the compulsive things she did which hurt you.</span></p><p><span style="color: #0000FF"></span></p><p><span style="color: #0000FF"> I dump my anger squarely on mental illness. It's a complicated, devastating, serious and sometimes deadly condition. It's hideous but blaming ourselves for not caring enough or doing enough doesn't accomplish anything.</span></p><p><span style="color: #0000FF"></span></p><p><span style="color: #0000FF">In a strange way, I think my resilience infuriated husband. He wanted/needed me to feel whatever he was feeling. I kept carrying on around him, in spite of him, enjoying the small things in life. Loving the children and watching them grow. He could not or would not relax, enjoy, and be. Everything for him was an uphill struggle. I don't view life that way. </span></p><p><span style="color: #0000FF"></span></p><p><span style="color: #0000FF"></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="pigless in VA, post: 534871, member: 11832"] [COLOR=#0000FF]Upallnight, please let go of the guilt over your mother in law. I loved my husband deeply, and we were very close when he was well. Mental illness causes the affected person to not feel love. They cannot be reached by love and compassion; they need to be in a hospital, and they need to find the right medication that works for them. Also, you had a right to be angry for the compulsive things she did which hurt you. I dump my anger squarely on mental illness. It's a complicated, devastating, serious and sometimes deadly condition. It's hideous but blaming ourselves for not caring enough or doing enough doesn't accomplish anything. In a strange way, I think my resilience infuriated husband. He wanted/needed me to feel whatever he was feeling. I kept carrying on around him, in spite of him, enjoying the small things in life. Loving the children and watching them grow. He could not or would not relax, enjoy, and be. Everything for him was an uphill struggle. I don't view life that way. [/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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