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<blockquote data-quote="pigless in VA" data-source="post: 534935" data-attributes="member: 11832"><p><span style="color: #0000FF"></span></p><p><span style="color: #0000FF">Oh man! I didn't mean to make you guys cry. I'm sorry. Mental illness and suicide are horrible. But life deals us horrible blows, and it's our job to carry on in spite of the ugliness. </span></p><p><span style="color: #0000FF"></span></p><p> <span style="color: #0000FF">Of note is that immediately after husband died, I attended an all ladies New Year's Eve party. I discovered that the women (I only know the host) all wanted to spend their time bashing the exes. Somewhere else I'm sure there was a group of guys doing the same thing about their exes. Life is too short to think only about all the **** that gets thrown at us. </span></p><p><span style="color: #0000FF"></span></p><p><span style="color: #0000FF">Nancy, I hate mental illness, too. I hate that the sufferers have to keep taking drug after drug after drug in the hope of finding something that works. I hate that the psychiatrists don't understand the severity of the side-effects. I hate that it happens in the first place. </span></p><p><span style="color: #0000FF"></span></p><p><span style="color: #0000FF">I was not alone in this battle. I have a dear friend who was/is (currently separated) also married to someone who is mentally ill, and one of my closest friends is bipolar I and has been stable for years. She was my "go-to" person every time husband blew up. I had excellent support. I hesistated to tell people what specifically was happening, but as the parade of police began, I opened up. What I discovered was that the people around me were supportive, not judgmental, and that nearly everyone has experienced mental illness somewhere along the line. As one of my friends says, "you shake any family tree and a few nuts are bound to fall out." </span></p><p><span style="color: #0000FF"></span></p><p><span style="color: #0000FF">Loth, this was a one migraine, one nightmare venture. Not too bad. </span></p><p><span style="color: #0000FF"></span></p><p><span style="color: #0000FF"></span></p><p><span style="color: #0000FF"></span></p><p><span style="color: #0000FF">Yes, please do. Call your county or city mental health system. Get a therapist. Talk to friends and family. Talk to people on the CD board. </span></p><p><span style="color: #0000FF"></span></p><p><span style="color: #0000FF">I watched husband drowning in his own emotions and kept trying to throw him a life-preserver. Instead, he kept grabbing me and trying his best to pull me under. He said to me, "I know the children aren't mine." I offered to have them DNA tested. His behavior forced me to leave the house repeatedly. I had to emotionally withdraw from him in order to survive. I know he felt it, but I never stopped loving him. Every decision I made, I considered all of us. </span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="pigless in VA, post: 534935, member: 11832"] [COLOR=#0000FF] Oh man! I didn't mean to make you guys cry. I'm sorry. Mental illness and suicide are horrible. But life deals us horrible blows, and it's our job to carry on in spite of the ugliness. Of note is that immediately after husband died, I attended an all ladies New Year's Eve party. I discovered that the women (I only know the host) all wanted to spend their time bashing the exes. Somewhere else I'm sure there was a group of guys doing the same thing about their exes. Life is too short to think only about all the **** that gets thrown at us. Nancy, I hate mental illness, too. I hate that the sufferers have to keep taking drug after drug after drug in the hope of finding something that works. I hate that the psychiatrists don't understand the severity of the side-effects. I hate that it happens in the first place. I was not alone in this battle. I have a dear friend who was/is (currently separated) also married to someone who is mentally ill, and one of my closest friends is bipolar I and has been stable for years. She was my "go-to" person every time husband blew up. I had excellent support. I hesistated to tell people what specifically was happening, but as the parade of police began, I opened up. What I discovered was that the people around me were supportive, not judgmental, and that nearly everyone has experienced mental illness somewhere along the line. As one of my friends says, "you shake any family tree and a few nuts are bound to fall out." Loth, this was a one migraine, one nightmare venture. Not too bad. Yes, please do. Call your county or city mental health system. Get a therapist. Talk to friends and family. Talk to people on the CD board. I watched husband drowning in his own emotions and kept trying to throw him a life-preserver. Instead, he kept grabbing me and trying his best to pull me under. He said to me, "I know the children aren't mine." I offered to have them DNA tested. His behavior forced me to leave the house repeatedly. I had to emotionally withdraw from him in order to survive. I know he felt it, but I never stopped loving him. Every decision I made, I considered all of us. [/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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