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<blockquote data-quote="CAmom" data-source="post: 87088" data-attributes="member: 1835"><p>Karen, no, he had no probation after his release. The difference between the group home facility he was in and the "Residential Treatment Center (RTC)'s" that are discussed on the boards, I think, is that his was not a treatment facility but rather more a group foster-type home that was not specifically geared toward drug and alcohol use, although there were components of the overall program that addressed those issues. </p><p></p><p>My son left the program with the attitude that he WISHED he had been smoking pot rather than having had alcohol the night he got involved with his friends in a crime because, "If I had been smoking weed, I would have been too lazy and laid back to go along with them to start with!" He in no way sees pot as a problem other than legally, and he doesn't even worry much about that because he never has more on his person than that that would be considered a misdemeaner by the police. </p><p></p><p>Actually, it really wasn't as difficult, having him home after ten months of peace and quiet, as I thought. He has always been very social and is a wanderer, going from one friend's home to another, and occasionally bringing friends back here, so we don't see a lot of him. He does his own laundry and cooks himself meals (or goes out) since he eats at different times than we do. He tries to be quiet when he comes home late, and really doesn't disturb us, although I'm a light sleeper and usually hear him come in. He never asks for rides anywhere and finds his own transportation. So, really, things aren't a lot different than they were when he was gone. </p><p></p><p>The main issue for me, which I try to deal with since things are going fairly well otherwise, is his room! His ideas about what constitutes a clean room and ours are entirely different, i.e., he'll strip his bed and then sleep on the mattress cover because he doesn't feel like putting clean sheets on. When I ask him about it, his response is along the lines of what difference does it make if he sleeps on sheets or the mattress cover since they're all fabric and he's comfortable. </p><p></p><p>The group home our son was in really stressed life skills and independent living because most of the boys weren't able to return home for various reasons. Our son was still 17 when he was released and very anxious, a problem he has always had. He's meeting with a therapist every couple of weeks who feels, as we do, that he has a degree of almost a post-traumatic stress syndrome and needs some time to "decompress" before we start putting too much pressure on him. This was evidenced by a job interview he scheduled for himself at a local mall. He filled out the app and was called for a group interview. He got up early, got dressed, and we got all the way to the mall when he fell apart, telling me that he wanted to find work within walking distance of our home and did NOT want to work so far away (the mall is four miles from our home...).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CAmom, post: 87088, member: 1835"] Karen, no, he had no probation after his release. The difference between the group home facility he was in and the "Residential Treatment Center (RTC)'s" that are discussed on the boards, I think, is that his was not a treatment facility but rather more a group foster-type home that was not specifically geared toward drug and alcohol use, although there were components of the overall program that addressed those issues. My son left the program with the attitude that he WISHED he had been smoking pot rather than having had alcohol the night he got involved with his friends in a crime because, "If I had been smoking weed, I would have been too lazy and laid back to go along with them to start with!" He in no way sees pot as a problem other than legally, and he doesn't even worry much about that because he never has more on his person than that that would be considered a misdemeaner by the police. Actually, it really wasn't as difficult, having him home after ten months of peace and quiet, as I thought. He has always been very social and is a wanderer, going from one friend's home to another, and occasionally bringing friends back here, so we don't see a lot of him. He does his own laundry and cooks himself meals (or goes out) since he eats at different times than we do. He tries to be quiet when he comes home late, and really doesn't disturb us, although I'm a light sleeper and usually hear him come in. He never asks for rides anywhere and finds his own transportation. So, really, things aren't a lot different than they were when he was gone. The main issue for me, which I try to deal with since things are going fairly well otherwise, is his room! His ideas about what constitutes a clean room and ours are entirely different, i.e., he'll strip his bed and then sleep on the mattress cover because he doesn't feel like putting clean sheets on. When I ask him about it, his response is along the lines of what difference does it make if he sleeps on sheets or the mattress cover since they're all fabric and he's comfortable. The group home our son was in really stressed life skills and independent living because most of the boys weren't able to return home for various reasons. Our son was still 17 when he was released and very anxious, a problem he has always had. He's meeting with a therapist every couple of weeks who feels, as we do, that he has a degree of almost a post-traumatic stress syndrome and needs some time to "decompress" before we start putting too much pressure on him. This was evidenced by a job interview he scheduled for himself at a local mall. He filled out the app and was called for a group interview. He got up early, got dressed, and we got all the way to the mall when he fell apart, telling me that he wanted to find work within walking distance of our home and did NOT want to work so far away (the mall is four miles from our home...). [/QUOTE]
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