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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 87493" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p>Hi CAMom. I read your post with much interest because my son is trying to force me into a situation that's similar to your own. He, too, states that he "loves smoking pot" and will never stop, but that he feels he can be a "functional pothead" if everyone would just get off his back. At this point, he's facing being shown the door in December, but that's a murky possibility because my wife seems willing to give him the same deal you have with your son - against my will, I might add.</p><p></p><p>I can say, however, that I'm doubtful it will work (for us). I made that "deal with the devil" about 2 years ago, when McWeedy said that if I'd just let him smoke a joint now and then, that he'd do well in school, keep his room clean, etc. Worked for about a week, then he took a nose dive straight off Mt. Olympus. To be fair, though, that was a 16YO who had just come clean about his drug use. He's now two years older, lost just about everything I can take from him, and has a 50/50 chance of finding himself on his own in January. However, he's still making the same claims - that his pot use isn't the issue, it's my nazi attitude that drives him to act out, and that if I'd just "back off" things would be better.</p><p></p><p>Will they? After two years of constant struggle, with my wife on the brink of giving in, I just don't know. But I'll be very interested to see how your son (and your family) fairs with your own compromise. Another member here (I don't remember who) said that "it's amazing what you can learn to ignore". She had simple rules: "don't steal from me, don't do drugs in my house or bring them around here", etc.</p><p></p><p>How do you think this will work out with your son? He obviously doesn't want to stop smoking pot, yet you seem to think that maybe he can keep the damage from that behavior to a minimum (and away from your family) while still giving him the benefit of the doubt in other areas. I, too, face such a choice. For me, more like an ultimatum.</p><p></p><p>If you don't mind, how did you come to the point of tolerating his drug use while still living at home? I'd be very interested to know.</p><p></p><p>Thanks so much,</p><p></p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 87493, member: 3579"] Hi CAMom. I read your post with much interest because my son is trying to force me into a situation that's similar to your own. He, too, states that he "loves smoking pot" and will never stop, but that he feels he can be a "functional pothead" if everyone would just get off his back. At this point, he's facing being shown the door in December, but that's a murky possibility because my wife seems willing to give him the same deal you have with your son - against my will, I might add. I can say, however, that I'm doubtful it will work (for us). I made that "deal with the devil" about 2 years ago, when McWeedy said that if I'd just let him smoke a joint now and then, that he'd do well in school, keep his room clean, etc. Worked for about a week, then he took a nose dive straight off Mt. Olympus. To be fair, though, that was a 16YO who had just come clean about his drug use. He's now two years older, lost just about everything I can take from him, and has a 50/50 chance of finding himself on his own in January. However, he's still making the same claims - that his pot use isn't the issue, it's my nazi attitude that drives him to act out, and that if I'd just "back off" things would be better. Will they? After two years of constant struggle, with my wife on the brink of giving in, I just don't know. But I'll be very interested to see how your son (and your family) fairs with your own compromise. Another member here (I don't remember who) said that "it's amazing what you can learn to ignore". She had simple rules: "don't steal from me, don't do drugs in my house or bring them around here", etc. How do you think this will work out with your son? He obviously doesn't want to stop smoking pot, yet you seem to think that maybe he can keep the damage from that behavior to a minimum (and away from your family) while still giving him the benefit of the doubt in other areas. I, too, face such a choice. For me, more like an ultimatum. If you don't mind, how did you come to the point of tolerating his drug use while still living at home? I'd be very interested to know. Thanks so much, Mikey [/QUOTE]
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