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<blockquote data-quote="CAmom" data-source="post: 87530" data-attributes="member: 1835"><p>Well, Mikey, I've read your posts since Day 1, and have noticed many similarities in our boys.</p><p></p><p>On the other hand, I think there is a major difference in that our son has, except for once or twice at the very beginning of his pot use, always kept it out of our home and out of our faces, i.e., he wouldn't dream of cooking up a batch of marijuana cookies or whatever it was that McWeedy was concocting when your wife discovered him! He knows that, if we were to find pot and/or discover him smoking pot in our home, he will be asked to start making plans to move out.</p><p></p><p>So, I can't say we have a "deal" per se, as we would never agree to "let" him smoke pot. However, we've told him that, at 18 years of age, he's entitled to make his own choices about how he wants to live his life including choosing to break the law, but that we also have a right to choose what we will tolerate in our home.</p><p></p><p>Our situation is also different in that our son is an only child and, quite frankly, his pot use really doesn't affect anyone but himself. Another major difference is that our son spent the last ten months in a group home, and my husband and I had to learn to detach since we saw him for weekend passes only every other week. So, my husband and I had ten months to reconnect as a couple, without the stresses of having to deal with our son and his choices. It was fairly easy to keep going in that direction, once he was home and turned 18. This probably sounds selfish...but there it is...</p><p></p><p>All that said, we're still in somewhat of a "holding pattern" in that he hasn't gotten a job yet or started school. We would really like him to start our local community college next semester (in January) so aren't pushing the job situation much so that he'll be free to attend full-time if he wants. </p><p></p><p>So, I guess, for the moment, our son really has very few responsibilities, so whatever his pot use, it isn't interfering with anything as it was with his school attendance before he was ordered into the group home. However, if, when it comes time to either register for college or get a job or a combination of both, and he doesn't follow through, his pot use will be the first thing we'll be looking at.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CAmom, post: 87530, member: 1835"] Well, Mikey, I've read your posts since Day 1, and have noticed many similarities in our boys. On the other hand, I think there is a major difference in that our son has, except for once or twice at the very beginning of his pot use, always kept it out of our home and out of our faces, i.e., he wouldn't dream of cooking up a batch of marijuana cookies or whatever it was that McWeedy was concocting when your wife discovered him! He knows that, if we were to find pot and/or discover him smoking pot in our home, he will be asked to start making plans to move out. So, I can't say we have a "deal" per se, as we would never agree to "let" him smoke pot. However, we've told him that, at 18 years of age, he's entitled to make his own choices about how he wants to live his life including choosing to break the law, but that we also have a right to choose what we will tolerate in our home. Our situation is also different in that our son is an only child and, quite frankly, his pot use really doesn't affect anyone but himself. Another major difference is that our son spent the last ten months in a group home, and my husband and I had to learn to detach since we saw him for weekend passes only every other week. So, my husband and I had ten months to reconnect as a couple, without the stresses of having to deal with our son and his choices. It was fairly easy to keep going in that direction, once he was home and turned 18. This probably sounds selfish...but there it is... All that said, we're still in somewhat of a "holding pattern" in that he hasn't gotten a job yet or started school. We would really like him to start our local community college next semester (in January) so aren't pushing the job situation much so that he'll be free to attend full-time if he wants. So, I guess, for the moment, our son really has very few responsibilities, so whatever his pot use, it isn't interfering with anything as it was with his school attendance before he was ordered into the group home. However, if, when it comes time to either register for college or get a job or a combination of both, and he doesn't follow through, his pot use will be the first thing we'll be looking at. [/QUOTE]
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