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<blockquote data-quote="Ephchap" data-source="post: 87782" data-attributes="member: 27"><p>As I've mentioned several times through the years, our line in the sand was drugging. No, not just drugging in our home, but drugging period.</p><p></p><p>It was non-negotiable for me. That's me though. We all have our lines that we will or won't allow to be crossed. I signed my son in against his will at age 14 to what ended up to be a crisis unit and then a 5 month residential/crisis bed stay; he was running away on weekends, being defiant and smoking pot. Fast forward to three years later, and the pot smoking started up again and then within weeks, he moved onto crack for 6 weeks. For me, the line was drawn, but he knew that early on. No drugging. Period. He ended up in the 10 month residential. This time I didn't have him forced in against his will, but I definitely "nudged". lol. He knew there were two options - that or jail.</p><p></p><p>I think I'm so set in stone on the no drugging because of my older difficult child alcoholic brother. I watched my parents enable him his whole life, and once dad passed away, the burden rested on me. It's hard to undo all those years of enabling. My mom never learned that my brother needs to do it on his own, that he needed to hit bottom, or whatever. She was always there to rescue him, and eventually, it was me that was always doing the fixing. These past 6 months have been he## for me because of dealing with it all.</p><p></p><p>So, perhaps that's why I'm more inflexible than others are when it comes to the drugging. </p><p></p><p>I'm glad to hear that things are peaceful now that your son is home, but it sounds like that could change if he doesn't start moving forward with school and/or work. Fingers crossed that he realizes he can't sit back carefree and worryfree without doing something.</p><p></p><p>Here's hoping things stay on the right track and that your son continues to make good choices.</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p>Deb</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ephchap, post: 87782, member: 27"] As I've mentioned several times through the years, our line in the sand was drugging. No, not just drugging in our home, but drugging period. It was non-negotiable for me. That's me though. We all have our lines that we will or won't allow to be crossed. I signed my son in against his will at age 14 to what ended up to be a crisis unit and then a 5 month residential/crisis bed stay; he was running away on weekends, being defiant and smoking pot. Fast forward to three years later, and the pot smoking started up again and then within weeks, he moved onto crack for 6 weeks. For me, the line was drawn, but he knew that early on. No drugging. Period. He ended up in the 10 month residential. This time I didn't have him forced in against his will, but I definitely "nudged". lol. He knew there were two options - that or jail. I think I'm so set in stone on the no drugging because of my older difficult child alcoholic brother. I watched my parents enable him his whole life, and once dad passed away, the burden rested on me. It's hard to undo all those years of enabling. My mom never learned that my brother needs to do it on his own, that he needed to hit bottom, or whatever. She was always there to rescue him, and eventually, it was me that was always doing the fixing. These past 6 months have been he## for me because of dealing with it all. So, perhaps that's why I'm more inflexible than others are when it comes to the drugging. I'm glad to hear that things are peaceful now that your son is home, but it sounds like that could change if he doesn't start moving forward with school and/or work. Fingers crossed that he realizes he can't sit back carefree and worryfree without doing something. Here's hoping things stay on the right track and that your son continues to make good choices. Hugs, Deb [/QUOTE]
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