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How long do I have to put up with it? A truthful non-exagerated vent/rant
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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 403759" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Oh Michl.... I'm so sorry!!!! Sending you many gentle hugs.</p><p></p><p>I think you need to get out of the house and do something just for you. Nope, it's not going to fix a doggone thing and you'll come home to the same old stuff, but you have reached your limit and you need to do something to remind yourself that there is a life out there, past the stinky kid and seemingly never ending cycle of same old same old. Parenting a difficult child (or even pcs some days) can be a thankless job - if you don't take care of yourself, no one else will. Find a counselor - honestly, sometimes just being able to spew our innermost feelings to a real human body who will hear us and not judge us is worth its weight in gold. </p><p></p><p>Some stuff to thing about *after* your day out (or better yet, "days" out!):</p><p></p><p>Would you consider calling 911 the next time he gets aggressive? Request transport for a mentally ill child to local hospital for evaluation? The violence, aggression, and destruction of your home concern me. It's a heck of a way to live and it is quite frankly unacceptable - you don't deserve to live that way in your own home. He has no right to terrorize you.</p><p></p><p>What is the plan for post HS? Is he capable of holding a job, going on to college, living on his own (capable of doing it, not will he do it)? What's his transition plan like in his IEP, and are those goals appropriate and being addressed? Is a voc ed program more appropriate for him? </p><p></p><p>Get an ipod or MP3 or earplugs so you cannot hear the name calling. </p><p></p><p>I'm going to assume that he is functioning on a high enough level that he's perfectly capable of taking a shower if he chooses to; that he's just being oppositional to the max. So.... let him stink. You've been fighting this battle for years, hon. Enough. </p><p></p><p>Detach. He flunks? His problem. He doesn't graduate? His problem (again, assuming that he has the capacity to function independently). His choices.</p><p></p><p>Our kids can run us right into the ground. We have to be vigilant about taking care of ourselves. You sound stressed to the max. Please please do some caretaking of yourself.</p><p></p><p>Again, a gentle hug.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 403759, member: 8"] Oh Michl.... I'm so sorry!!!! Sending you many gentle hugs. I think you need to get out of the house and do something just for you. Nope, it's not going to fix a doggone thing and you'll come home to the same old stuff, but you have reached your limit and you need to do something to remind yourself that there is a life out there, past the stinky kid and seemingly never ending cycle of same old same old. Parenting a difficult child (or even pcs some days) can be a thankless job - if you don't take care of yourself, no one else will. Find a counselor - honestly, sometimes just being able to spew our innermost feelings to a real human body who will hear us and not judge us is worth its weight in gold. Some stuff to thing about *after* your day out (or better yet, "days" out!): Would you consider calling 911 the next time he gets aggressive? Request transport for a mentally ill child to local hospital for evaluation? The violence, aggression, and destruction of your home concern me. It's a heck of a way to live and it is quite frankly unacceptable - you don't deserve to live that way in your own home. He has no right to terrorize you. What is the plan for post HS? Is he capable of holding a job, going on to college, living on his own (capable of doing it, not will he do it)? What's his transition plan like in his IEP, and are those goals appropriate and being addressed? Is a voc ed program more appropriate for him? Get an ipod or MP3 or earplugs so you cannot hear the name calling. I'm going to assume that he is functioning on a high enough level that he's perfectly capable of taking a shower if he chooses to; that he's just being oppositional to the max. So.... let him stink. You've been fighting this battle for years, hon. Enough. Detach. He flunks? His problem. He doesn't graduate? His problem (again, assuming that he has the capacity to function independently). His choices. Our kids can run us right into the ground. We have to be vigilant about taking care of ourselves. You sound stressed to the max. Please please do some caretaking of yourself. Again, a gentle hug. [/QUOTE]
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