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How long do I have to put up with it? A truthful non-exagerated vent/rant
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<blockquote data-quote="Bunny" data-source="post: 403819"><p>I've been there. I know exactly how you feel and I know that it sucks. </p><p> </p><p>My first suggestion would be that you find a good therapist - for yourself. You have alot of pent up anger, resentment, and frustration at the situation that you are living with and that is never going to get any better in your mind until you find someone who can help you work through it. You need someone to talk to, someone who is an outside third party who is not going to cast judgment down on you, but who will be able to help you see things a little differently.</p><p> </p><p>Next, would you consider taking an anti-depressant? I starting taking one last fall and I have to say that it has made a world of difference. I'm calmer and when I'm calmer, my difficult child is calmer.</p><p> </p><p>Do you have any hobbies that can take you out of the house for a while? You need a break. Find something that you like to do, even if it's just going to get a manicure ad a cup of coffee. Go to the local library and read for an hour or two. Take a craft class. Something to get your mind off of the home problems for a little while. It does not fix them, but it will give you a chance to breath and relax for a little while. </p><p> </p><p>What does your husband do when you son treats you like this? Throwing sandals at you? Calling you names? Does he tolerate that behavior towards you? If you son does these things and your husband does nothing to stop it, that, in my opinion, is part of the problem. If he dad says nothing about treating you badly he thinks thats the same and saying it's okay. After all, if no one is telling you to stop doing something it must alright, right? The problem is, that it's abusive behavior and it needs to stop. Would you be willing to call the police for assistance? We are not talkiing about a toddler here who does not know right from wrong. He's a young man now, and if he treats you this way how is he going to treat the other women that will eventually be part of his life. He has to learn that it will not be allowed to continue and if a trip to the hospital for an evaluation, or even a night in jail is what it takes, maybe be has to learn that lesson the hard way. Some difficult children are like that.</p><p> </p><p>Have you spoken to your son's psychiatrist? Maybe the medications that he is taking are just not cutting it anymore. Maybe he needs something else that can help his anger and aggression.</p><p> </p><p>Pam</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Bunny, post: 403819"] I've been there. I know exactly how you feel and I know that it sucks. My first suggestion would be that you find a good therapist - for yourself. You have alot of pent up anger, resentment, and frustration at the situation that you are living with and that is never going to get any better in your mind until you find someone who can help you work through it. You need someone to talk to, someone who is an outside third party who is not going to cast judgment down on you, but who will be able to help you see things a little differently. Next, would you consider taking an anti-depressant? I starting taking one last fall and I have to say that it has made a world of difference. I'm calmer and when I'm calmer, my difficult child is calmer. Do you have any hobbies that can take you out of the house for a while? You need a break. Find something that you like to do, even if it's just going to get a manicure ad a cup of coffee. Go to the local library and read for an hour or two. Take a craft class. Something to get your mind off of the home problems for a little while. It does not fix them, but it will give you a chance to breath and relax for a little while. What does your husband do when you son treats you like this? Throwing sandals at you? Calling you names? Does he tolerate that behavior towards you? If you son does these things and your husband does nothing to stop it, that, in my opinion, is part of the problem. If he dad says nothing about treating you badly he thinks thats the same and saying it's okay. After all, if no one is telling you to stop doing something it must alright, right? The problem is, that it's abusive behavior and it needs to stop. Would you be willing to call the police for assistance? We are not talkiing about a toddler here who does not know right from wrong. He's a young man now, and if he treats you this way how is he going to treat the other women that will eventually be part of his life. He has to learn that it will not be allowed to continue and if a trip to the hospital for an evaluation, or even a night in jail is what it takes, maybe be has to learn that lesson the hard way. Some difficult children are like that. Have you spoken to your son's psychiatrist? Maybe the medications that he is taking are just not cutting it anymore. Maybe he needs something else that can help his anger and aggression. Pam [/QUOTE]
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