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How long do I have to put up with it? A truthful non-exagerated vent/rant
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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 403851" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>I hear ya!</p><p> </p><p>I agree with-the others, and have had issues with-my son not bathing, too.</p><p> </p><p>Does your son have a TV, iPod or other item he loves? Use it as leverage. Take it away when he's not looking and hide it. When he comes home, in a happy voice, tell him you are giving him a list of chores, written down, including taking a shower, and when he finishes them, he gets his Ipod or whatever back. (Yes, I incl showers and teeth brushing with-my son's chores. Sigh.)</p><p>He will throw a fit, so you may want to have a big guy around, a neighbor or something.</p><p>Eventually, after a few hrs, he will give in and take a shower.</p><p>You may want to try this with-smaller things so he knows he can trust you to follow through. One thing I learned not to do is give him more chores on top of the list ... IOW, he'd vacuum, and I'd say, "Oh, can you do that rug over there? It will only take a second." For us, sure, that's normal. For these kids, no. You lied. You added onto the list. You have to know that's how he thinks.</p><p> </p><p>I would agree with-antidepressants for you at least for the time being. Unfortunately, they take a few wks to take effect so you have to be patient. I like to get out of the house when my son gets on my nerves ... sometimes I drive to Starbucks, or the grocery store, or the book store, or park the car 1/2 a blk away and go sit in my own yard, just so he thinks I'm gone and won't bug me in my own yard.</p><p> </p><p>Also, put a lock on your bedroom door and carry the key with-you at all times. You need a place to call your own. The bathroom gets a little old, Know what I mean??</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 403851, member: 3419"] I hear ya! I agree with-the others, and have had issues with-my son not bathing, too. Does your son have a TV, iPod or other item he loves? Use it as leverage. Take it away when he's not looking and hide it. When he comes home, in a happy voice, tell him you are giving him a list of chores, written down, including taking a shower, and when he finishes them, he gets his Ipod or whatever back. (Yes, I incl showers and teeth brushing with-my son's chores. Sigh.) He will throw a fit, so you may want to have a big guy around, a neighbor or something. Eventually, after a few hrs, he will give in and take a shower. You may want to try this with-smaller things so he knows he can trust you to follow through. One thing I learned not to do is give him more chores on top of the list ... IOW, he'd vacuum, and I'd say, "Oh, can you do that rug over there? It will only take a second." For us, sure, that's normal. For these kids, no. You lied. You added onto the list. You have to know that's how he thinks. I would agree with-antidepressants for you at least for the time being. Unfortunately, they take a few wks to take effect so you have to be patient. I like to get out of the house when my son gets on my nerves ... sometimes I drive to Starbucks, or the grocery store, or the book store, or park the car 1/2 a blk away and go sit in my own yard, just so he thinks I'm gone and won't bug me in my own yard. Also, put a lock on your bedroom door and carry the key with-you at all times. You need a place to call your own. The bathroom gets a little old, Know what I mean?? [/QUOTE]
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