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How long do I have to put up with it? A truthful non-exagerated vent/rant
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<blockquote data-quote="Steely" data-source="post: 403897" data-attributes="member: 3301"><p>Sounds identical to mine at this age - only he had already been kicked out of a thousand schools, and I was stuck with him 24/7 trying to homeschool him. Finally he ended up in residential. I can't tell you the horrible things I used to think about him during this time - it was really bad.</p><p>However - I can truly tell you that at some point this WILL get better!!! Matt is 20 now, and still hates laundry but does shower - he has a LONG ways to go - but he is going forward - and I can feel my love for him again, deeply.</p><p>Biggest change for both of us was separate residences. Truthfully, I feel like I could have skipped the thousands of dollars I felt like I threw away on treatment programs - and just gotten him his own place and many of the struggles would have been solved. Now in order to have a place he has to go to school - and the rest is his deal. If he wants to live like a pig, he can - because it is no longer my house. Interestingly enough - he has not broken ONE thing in his own house - not one hole punched in a wall - nothing. For him it was always about engaging others in his own cr@p - and now that he can't do that - it all falls on him.</p><p>Please know I am not suggesting you kick him out at 15 - I am just saying I understand. And perhaps a program or grandparent respite is needed for the situation right now??? </p><p>Hang in there -</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Steely, post: 403897, member: 3301"] Sounds identical to mine at this age - only he had already been kicked out of a thousand schools, and I was stuck with him 24/7 trying to homeschool him. Finally he ended up in residential. I can't tell you the horrible things I used to think about him during this time - it was really bad. However - I can truly tell you that at some point this WILL get better!!! Matt is 20 now, and still hates laundry but does shower - he has a LONG ways to go - but he is going forward - and I can feel my love for him again, deeply. Biggest change for both of us was separate residences. Truthfully, I feel like I could have skipped the thousands of dollars I felt like I threw away on treatment programs - and just gotten him his own place and many of the struggles would have been solved. Now in order to have a place he has to go to school - and the rest is his deal. If he wants to live like a pig, he can - because it is no longer my house. Interestingly enough - he has not broken ONE thing in his own house - not one hole punched in a wall - nothing. For him it was always about engaging others in his own cr@p - and now that he can't do that - it all falls on him. Please know I am not suggesting you kick him out at 15 - I am just saying I understand. And perhaps a program or grandparent respite is needed for the situation right now??? Hang in there - [/QUOTE]
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