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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 479198"><p>I know nothing about this - so please do not mistake my naivete for anything else... but it sounds like - terrific program or not - that sober house is the wrong fit for him.</p><p></p><p>My sister in law is an ex-gambler who worked the program through Gambler's Anon and is still attending meetings nearly 15 years later. AFAIK, she has not had any relapses - but I do remember she had a really rough go of it in the 6 months or so when she began getting help and going to counseling and meetings. I think that's a common thing for people getting help - a period of bristling when their addiction actually gets worse - almost like a last gasp.</p><p></p><p>Again, I am not an authority - I only have anecdotal experience through my sister in law -- but I do remember learning that a gambling addiction has a different approach than a substance addiction only because gamblers will need to use their substance (money) daily to live in a modern world. So - it's a different type of recovery process with special need of learning how to manage and make peace with the substance that entraps them.</p><p></p><p>I definitely would not go the college/tennis academy route -- but if tennis makes him happy - I might consider trying to add that to his recovery program. Carrot and stick? Again - not an authority - but my boys are very athletic. I think part of my difficult child's struggle began with losing the day to day athletic structure he had grown accustomed to throughout his life. He doesn't play college sports and I think it left him at loose ends.</p><p></p><p>Again, just a rambling $.02</p><p></p><p>Sorry you are struggling with this - and definitely draw a line - either a time frame or a budget and do not budge.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 479198"] I know nothing about this - so please do not mistake my naivete for anything else... but it sounds like - terrific program or not - that sober house is the wrong fit for him. My sister in law is an ex-gambler who worked the program through Gambler's Anon and is still attending meetings nearly 15 years later. AFAIK, she has not had any relapses - but I do remember she had a really rough go of it in the 6 months or so when she began getting help and going to counseling and meetings. I think that's a common thing for people getting help - a period of bristling when their addiction actually gets worse - almost like a last gasp. Again, I am not an authority - I only have anecdotal experience through my sister in law -- but I do remember learning that a gambling addiction has a different approach than a substance addiction only because gamblers will need to use their substance (money) daily to live in a modern world. So - it's a different type of recovery process with special need of learning how to manage and make peace with the substance that entraps them. I definitely would not go the college/tennis academy route -- but if tennis makes him happy - I might consider trying to add that to his recovery program. Carrot and stick? Again - not an authority - but my boys are very athletic. I think part of my difficult child's struggle began with losing the day to day athletic structure he had grown accustomed to throughout his life. He doesn't play college sports and I think it left him at loose ends. Again, just a rambling $.02 Sorry you are struggling with this - and definitely draw a line - either a time frame or a budget and do not budge. [/QUOTE]
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