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<blockquote data-quote="AHF" data-source="post: 479277" data-attributes="member: 11180"><p>I think the tennis-academy thing is regression. He hopes to return to college in Fall '12 for his last chance at being a "scholar-athlete" (he started in Division 1 but blew out of it academically; he has another shot with a sympathetic coach in Division 3). But mrsammler is right: training is not needed at this stage for that goal. He proposes it as a "situation" in which he would be "happy"--in other words, relieving depression & thoughts of failure and escaping real-world challenges by retreating to "tennis camp" at 22. It's an absurd notion in every way. Unfortunately, he seems determined to prove to me that everything else I support will fail, and he is stubborn enough to risk death in a gutter just to impose guilt and/or get his way. His counselors have seen some small improvements, but not enough for him to begin the next stage of recovery, which normally happens by now. They will keep working with him if I keep paying--they don't give up on people--but they understand why I might stop paying after 2 months of resistance. At the same time, as others have done, they warn about suicide. Ai yi yi.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AHF, post: 479277, member: 11180"] I think the tennis-academy thing is regression. He hopes to return to college in Fall '12 for his last chance at being a "scholar-athlete" (he started in Division 1 but blew out of it academically; he has another shot with a sympathetic coach in Division 3). But mrsammler is right: training is not needed at this stage for that goal. He proposes it as a "situation" in which he would be "happy"--in other words, relieving depression & thoughts of failure and escaping real-world challenges by retreating to "tennis camp" at 22. It's an absurd notion in every way. Unfortunately, he seems determined to prove to me that everything else I support will fail, and he is stubborn enough to risk death in a gutter just to impose guilt and/or get his way. His counselors have seen some small improvements, but not enough for him to begin the next stage of recovery, which normally happens by now. They will keep working with him if I keep paying--they don't give up on people--but they understand why I might stop paying after 2 months of resistance. At the same time, as others have done, they warn about suicide. Ai yi yi. [/QUOTE]
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