When I see where everyone says they married into difficult child family - I say the same thing because two of my inlaws are difficult child for sure!! I was talking to someone the other night and said I married the mental institution and gave birth to their children. I have NEVER seen children act the way my difficult child does - but husband says he saw it all his life. My husband has only lost it in the past 2 years with my difficult child - but it is probably a combo of being bipolar/adhd/ AND teenager!!!! LOL - otherwise - husband is pretty calm.
As for choosing - I would NEVER turn my back on my children. My mom left us for a man and she basically lost her children. I hate not living close to my siblings and were raised away from each other. I will NEVER split my children or turn my back on them. My mom and dad are now reaping what they sowed.
Hugs to you - I don't have a perfect marriage, but I am a very lucky person to have the husband I have.
