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How many of us have adult difficult children we don't talk to?
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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 178520" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>While thank you isn't an adult yet, I am not initiating contact anymore. In the past year or so, if I have initiated contact, it's like trying to pull teeth to get him to participate in a conversation and he inevitably has to mention some recent bad behavior. It's almost a game to him, though I do not let myself react.</p><p> </p><p>After hearing for a year solid how "it" is all my fault (his quality of life, global warming, war in Iraq, etc.), I'm pretty much tired of it. I'm also tired of having phone conversations, or more recently conversations in person, where he repeatedly says he wants no contact with us (unless he wants something or has a medical issue, when he calls with no hesitation). He knows our phone number and has been told repeatedly he is welcome to come home for a visit any time. Interestingly, visits are usually pretty decent. </p><p> </p><p>To be honest, I haven't really thought about how I feel about it. I think if I really *did* think about it, my heart would break yet again. I guess I'm on autopilot with him. I do hope in the future he will figure out that family isn't as horrible as he seems to think it is right now and that we will be able to have some kind of decent relationship but... for now, I'm just letting him figure it out. </p><p> </p><p>Kinda inhales forcefully, you know? My little family here is the world to me and it does hurt that he would be so careless... but on the other hand, not an unexpected attitude from old thank you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 178520, member: 8"] While thank you isn't an adult yet, I am not initiating contact anymore. In the past year or so, if I have initiated contact, it's like trying to pull teeth to get him to participate in a conversation and he inevitably has to mention some recent bad behavior. It's almost a game to him, though I do not let myself react. After hearing for a year solid how "it" is all my fault (his quality of life, global warming, war in Iraq, etc.), I'm pretty much tired of it. I'm also tired of having phone conversations, or more recently conversations in person, where he repeatedly says he wants no contact with us (unless he wants something or has a medical issue, when he calls with no hesitation). He knows our phone number and has been told repeatedly he is welcome to come home for a visit any time. Interestingly, visits are usually pretty decent. To be honest, I haven't really thought about how I feel about it. I think if I really *did* think about it, my heart would break yet again. I guess I'm on autopilot with him. I do hope in the future he will figure out that family isn't as horrible as he seems to think it is right now and that we will be able to have some kind of decent relationship but... for now, I'm just letting him figure it out. Kinda inhales forcefully, you know? My little family here is the world to me and it does hurt that he would be so careless... but on the other hand, not an unexpected attitude from old thank you. [/QUOTE]
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